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    I relied on my brother a lot when I was a kid - he was outgoing and I was shy, so heading to group outings meant I had someone to hang out with (even though he probably wanted me to bugger off).

    I think it's probably more valuable to like each other as adults though, and my brother and I are just not at all the same. It's strange that we come from the same parents - we are so completely different.

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    It is very dependent on the personality of the children in my opinion.

    My eldest brother and I are 21 months apart. He hated me from birth. Ask any of my relatives and they'll say the same. He made my life hell until my hubby punched him when I was 20. He was nasty, mean, inflicted pain etc. Since hubby punched him we have gotten along better. He gets along best with my little sister who is 8.5 years younger. My younger brother, 3.5 year gap, often got along well too.

    Hubby is best buds with his brother. They are seven minutes apart.

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    I am five years older than my first brother than 10 years older than my sister and finally 21 years older than my youngest brother I hated the large age gap between us all growing up. I longed for a sister than felt ripped off she was so much younger and we have always been at different life stages. Even now we dont have a close relatuonship as she is almost 21 and i at 30 feel so much older despite have bestfriends who are 23. We are both currently pregnant due 5 days apart so I'm hoping that brings us closer. This is why I chose a smaller gap for my children (not that its worked that way )

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    my sister is 9 years older and by the time i was 6 she had moved out.. we were at completely different stages. we are so close now though!!

    my brother who was 20months older and i fought a bit when we were younger but when he hit high school it all stopped and we were best buds

    my other brother who is 6years older.. went off the rails from teen years.. we were never that close which is sad. we talk, i love him to bits, just wish he'd grow up!!

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    If I ever have another baby there will be at least a 6 year gap between siblings. I can't imagine my DS wanting to shake rattles, watch baby tv etc with a little one - he's very rough and tumble, into ninja things which probably would hurt/scare a baby/toddler.

    I wanted two close together so they could play together but that didn't pan out.

    My brother and I were only a few years apart and fought like cats and dogs but were the best of friends and rarely saw our parents during the day because we had too much fun making our own adventures mostly outside. I guess your own childhood shapes you - I had a great one being close in age so it's something I wanted for my DS.

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    I don't get it either. I don't know anyone with kids close in age who are best buddies all the time lol.

    There's 2 years between my brother and I...it wasn't until I was 16 and he was 14 that we became close (still are to this day). As kids we fought all.the.time. And nope, no matter what my parents did, nothing changed. Mum and Dad can't force Brother and Sister (or brother and brother/vice versa) to like each other I'm afraid - life just doesn't work that way .

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    I think it's probably more valuable to like each other as adults though
    Agreed! My sis and I are 18 months apart. When we were little we WERE best friends, and I do think that for most kids (under about 7), having a sibling close to your own age is more fun than having a sibling who is years older or younger.

    Personally I'm more worried about the other 73 years of my life that I will most likely know my siblings than the first 7 years.

    I think being close in age hindered my relationship with my sister a lot. It meant that we never really got a chance to be our own person until we were adults, and I think we kind of resented each other for that. It was like being twins, but without the awesome part.

    Obviously it does depend tremendously on the individuals, but my experience has been that similar age does not equal best friends.

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    Yup, I think it's definitely a personality thing rather than an age thing.

    My bother and sister are 10.5 months apart and have a major personality clash. They are 42 and 43 years old respectively, and I haven't seen either of them be friendly with each other, with the exception of my dads funeral. Even then I think it was more that they tolerated each other for the sake of the family.

    My sister and I are close. We're 9 years apart.

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    I'm hoping my 2 (19 months apart) will have each other when we're out with other kids, at school at home and have each other to play with. I'm positive they'll fight, all siblings do its a given, but who would ever say they wish they never had that sibling growing up? I fought with mine and hated him growing up too, but he's my brother and I loved him really and looking back we had alot of good times. I never felt lonely, and he always had my back.
    As a kid you generally don't see the positives (or negatives) until your an adult and can look back and see just how good you had it.
    I also have 2 older siblings 8 and 10 yrs. I'm also close to my sister who's 8 years older but only when I was older, as a kid I was their baby sister and treated like that. We did very different things, when they were clubbing I was playing with dolls. When my brother was clubbing I was going out with him and his friends, its just an example but there's a difference when your a kid.

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    Mum had 2 under 2 and we fought like cats and dogs right up until my brother moved out!! Now we are friends


 

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