Well, it's that jolly time of year again and already I find myself "using" the Christmas season as a parenting tool. This has created a moral dilemma in my head. What I need is the voices of reason and wisdom from my fellow bub hubbers before I do or say something that may scar my precious baby for life - or at least a part of it.
My three year old still has a dummy. I have tried several times over the last few months to have him willingly give it up. I try appealing to his sense of good will and concern for others - you know, "there's a little baby at the hospital who really needs a dummy so he doesn't cry, wouldn't you like to give him yours?" I guess not. How about his sense of self? "Your dummy gets really dirty sometimes and mummy doesn't want you to get sick so how about we throw it out now?" Strike two. Well, let's try rampant, outright bribery then. "You can go to McDonald's and have cookies and ice cream if you... just... give... me ....that ...... ($$#%^^%, under my breath)...dummy..pleeeeeease???" Nope, that didn't work either.
But now it's Christmas....
Santa has power above all other humans. He is the creator and deliverer of fabulous presents. He travels the planet in a sleigh with reindeer, and he's always happy, generous and has that elusive factor. He eats cookies and drinks milk and although I bet he feels like knocking back a few bourbons after a night of deliveries, he stays completely cheery and positive all the time! How can I compete with that??
To prove my point, I tell my little boy that Santa is looking for dummies to give to little babies for Christmas. In exchange for such a sacrifice, he will receive from Santa awesome presents, candy (thanks U.S TV shows) and chocolates. Well.... without hardly a second thought the dummy is handed over quite willingly and the suggestion made that it should be wrapped up and put under the tree, neatly addressed to Santa. So for two days now, the dummy has remained under the tree and the little guy is eagerly awaiting delivery of the promised toys etc.
So, my issue now is the collossal lie that I've now told my 3 year old, his notice of Santa has gone from him being a really "cool guy" to the most insanely awesome, super dooper dude ever!!! and I can't help but feel a little guilty for the deception..
I would be interested to know what other mums tell their children. I am hoping that the natural way that life proceeds will fix the problem for me and when he starts school some other child will blurt out the truth, they'll debate the issue between friends for some time and then come to the conclusion that the whole Santa thing is a load of rubbish. Do I need to worry now?