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    Default Honoring family members...

    Ok, so I would love to name my bub (if we have a boy), after my late cousin who passed away from CF over a decade ago.

    I know I need to ask his sister how she would feel about this as I know it would be a tough thing for her.

    I guess my question is, how would you feel if you lost a sibling and your cousin wanted to name her baby after that sibling? ( I should add that her son's middle name is her late brother's name, and she has no other siblings)

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    We're not even remotely close to our cousins, so if one of them wanted to do it I would be quite annoyed.
    However, if you and his sister are close, and you were close to the cousin that passed too, then I think it's a beautiful sentiment

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    You will have to ask her,

    Some people find it to hard to have to their passed family members names used. To some its like a constant reminder that they are no longer there.

    Other people think its a lovely gesture.

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    We are all really close. We are very lucky with that. We are spread all over the country and don't talk very often but try and keep us quiet when we get together.

    I know what you mean about the constant reminder though.


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    i had a brother who passed away and i had always planned on using his name as a middle name if i were to have a son. I ended up having a daughter so couldnt use it but then another family member used it for her son without discussing it with me, when her son was born she told the whole family his middle name is *** after MY brother and everyone was ohh that so nice blah blah blah. As you might be aboe to tell I was quite upset about it, not so much that she used his name just that she never thought to discuss it with me first.

    i think you should discuss your plans with your cousin

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    Depends 100% on your relationship with her, just ask!

    I think it's beautiful but I wouldn't do it because I am not close to my cousins.

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    I'd discuss it with family, his sister & parents. To be sure they would feel honored and not offended.

    I can't say for sure how I'd feel... But I do think in a way if I lost my brother & a family member named their child after my brother - or worse still I lost my son - I would prefer their name stayed 'their name'. So like I could talk about Daniel (my brother) without having to clarify 'which Daniel'.

    Though maybe a middle name?

    And I'd had a similar thought, wanting to name my baby after my parents first baby. She died 2 weeks old. Mum said at first she would love it, but would have to be mindful not to favour a grandchild because they shared her babies name. But later said no she wouldn't want that, it would be too painful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eleven Eleven View Post
    Depends 100% on your relationship with her, just ask!

    I think it's beautiful
    This.

    You may also want to ask you aunt and uncle how they feel.

    I think passing on family names is a fabulous way to honor them whether they have died or not.

    This baby is due on my grandmother's birthday and she died in May so I'd love to honour her when naming this baby, however her name was Dorothy Ethel, which is just not my cup of tea.

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    Dot?

    My nan died when I was pregnant with jasper. If I'd had a girl I may have considered the middle name 'dot' - short for Dorothy.

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    My sister died 20 years ago and when I 1st got pregnant I asked my parents if I could use her name if I had a girl. They felt a bit funny but wanted me to do it. I had a girl and she is just like her aunt in looks. Im glad I used the name as now its happy rather than sad


 

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