I am at a bit of a loss about what I should do. Story goes - a group of 4 of us are still friends from high school (one is my bff and the other 2 are really close to each other - we will call them A and B). So 3 of us are married and have kid(s) but A is still single. So A is very busy with her other friends and work and travel etc. Other than BFF, it is normal for there to be some months between phone calls and catchup but throughout this year my messages and calls to A have not been returned. B said that she has not heard as much from A lately either, so I have been worried about A as I know she has been very concerned for her father who had major surgery recently. A's other very close friends are married and 2 of her very good friends have recently had babies (and I know that this is something that she wants for herself but she hasn't met anyone etc etc) so pretty much all but 1 frind has kids etc.. A is a very guarded person and I think that she doesn't feel good about her appearance and she seems to surround herself with very attractive friends (B is included among these, I am not). We all had a christmas get together the other day and she came over and sid hello and we gave each other a hug but then she got as far away from me as possible, she didn't ask me how I was, how my DD was doing, nothing....no interest in me whatsoever. At dinner she was sitting across from my bff who I hadn't had much chance to talk to because the kids were between us so I moved and and tried to chat to them (my bff was fine) and A answered all of my questions politely but never tried to engage me at all.
I'm thinking that one of 3 things is happening
a. She is just done with me - I must offend her in some way
b. She is feeling a bit down in general - she seems very affected by her dads health problems and despite a clean bill of health she was teary talking about it.
c. She is sad not to have a partner/kids etc, but for some reason I am the whipping boy for this.
So, should I try and talk to her or just let it go. I spoke to B and she hasn't really seen the (lack of) interaction between us and I don't want to say too much. And my Bff is just oblivious.
Should I just write off 20 years of friendship??? It feels like she has.