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    Default 4am physical and mental exhaustion.. I feel so crappy!

    I feel so horrible this morning. I was feeding from 12am - 3:15am this morning and then *soul piercing baby cry* at 4am...... FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF........ ............. REALLY....................AGAIN?!?!?!

    I found myself really heated and picked DS up out of the cot abruptly and now I feel really ashamed of myself for being like that with him. I find DD a much easier baby but DS really pushes my buttons. I had a big crying melt down at 5am this morning and I still feel teary now.

    I thought it was more the fact that the "aftermath" of these babies on my body was getting me down the most... maybe that and extreme sleep deprivation, but i've never been that short with DS before.

    Does anyone else feel like that?

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    You are not alone. I sometimes struggle to comfort DS2 like I did DS1. I hope it will improve with time and sleep! I find getting some time out helps and have started to be more insistent that DH takes both boys for a while at least once a week. Hope you feel better soon.

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    Huge hugs. My newbie had a colicky night so I was literally up every 20 min for most of the night. I'm coping ok but that's because I have DH on a day off today to play with DS1 while I attempt to nap with bub.

    Are you getting time to catch up on sleep? Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture. Go easy on yourself, it sounds like you just need to rest

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    Absolutely! When DS was a newborn there were times when I did snatch him up out of his cradleor out of my bed when I was just exhausted and tired and with nobody there to help (I was on my own with his from when he was 3 days old).... you are not alone in feeling that way and as long as you haven't harmed DS then don't be too hard on yourself.

    OMG you have twins.... say no more!

    Here's a million tiny hugs for you! x 10000000

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    Definitely normal. Sleep deprivation is real and feeling happy that you've just closed your eyes and you need to open them again at 4am is almost impossible for anyone, no matter what the situation. I find 4 - 5am is one of the hardest times to be awake - it's when your cortisol (hormone that keeps you awake) is at it's lowest for the day.

    But, one of the hardest things I've found with a newborn is prolonged settling, especially in the night. Prolonged settling gets me frustrated more than anything else - oh, the frustration of thinking bubs will go to sleep in a minute only to have them become wide awake, or scream & refuse to settle for an hour, or demand yet another feed when the last one was an hour ago, etc, etc. I try my best not to let my frustration show to bubs, but if I do happen to get to bed and then have to get up shortly thereafter I really struggle. I've been known to cry, scream, pull the blanket over my head (the latter is the most common), etc. Around the 4 - 7 week period was difficult here too and I found my frustration levels were a little higher. I never hurt bub and rarely got directly angry 'at' her, but I did tell my dh that I was not managing at various points and hand her over, then go & cry.

    Try & get help so that you can get some rest during the day and it will help you manage as well as possible. The nights do get easier - my dd is just over a month older than your bub and her nights are SO much better than a month ago. She screams less in the late evening, settles more easily in the night and feeds less frequently too. I hope you get a better night tonight.

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    No i'd never hurt him. But I could have been more gentle picking him up, poor little guy.

    I don't sleep when they are sleeping because I have 2 x everything to clean and prepare and then laundry etc.. so it's pretty rough! I'm lucky that they aren't colicky or reflux babies... FML x 2 if they were, I think those mum's are super mum's!!!!!

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    I can totally relate. Im exhausted, 9 weeks of night feeds now equal extreme sleep deprivation.

    Today I'm actuaally concerned about driving the car for fear of falling asleep at the wheel.

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    YOUR NORMAL!!

    Many parents are the same, through in you have multiples & life is one big party!

    Seriously, babies are hard work. It does get easier, trust me. My 3 are now 2.5 & we sleep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misho View Post
    I can totally relate. Im exhausted, 9 weeks of night feeds now equal extreme sleep deprivation.

    Today I'm actuaally concerned about driving the car for fear of falling asleep at the wheel.
    I hope you don't need to drive today - have you got some help?

    I was exhausted a couple of weeks ago (getting sick too but I didn't realise) after I spent Saturday at my cousin's wedding & reception (really difficult with a 9 week old & a 4yo). I was alone with my dd the next morning & needed food so I went to the shops & crashed into a parked car on the way out of the driveway. It was a wake up call for me to cut back on what I was doing and grab as much sleep as possible. Thankfully no-one was injured, but I did have to pay $525 excess for repairs for both cars


 

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