My 5 month old DS is really testing me atm. Around 3 months he was sleeping from 6.30/7pm through until 4/5am without a feed, and did this for about a month or so. 4 months he started waking around midnight for a feed, then around 4am for another, and although I was frustrated, I still coped ok with the waking 2x per night.
For the past week he has been waking at 9.30pm, 12, 3 then 6am and I am absolutely exhausted! He had a head cold and at first I thought that was why but he is still repeating this general pattern a week later and I just can't go on like this, I really need some solid sleep!
We have a bedtime bath/feed/self-settle to sleep routine (usually he is asleep within 5 mins of putting him down) and he is down between 6.30-7pm every night. This was working well.
He is fully breastfed and having DH get up to do a bottle feed is out of the question, DH simply doesn't wake up!! And he travels a lot so its often just me and bub at home.
DS will not take a dummy, although I do try every night as he sometimes will take it AFTER a feed if he still hasn't settled (he often falls asleep feeding overnight, but then wakes when I take him off the boob).
Co-sleeping is also not an option, I have tried and tried but DS will not settle whilst I am in the room.
Ssh patting does not in any way shape or form work for DS. Just my mere presence in the room seems to fire him up more. My DH has tried also but has the patience of a 2yr old
He does seem to be hungry and feeding him definitely works to get him back to sleep, although lately he is doing a but of comfort sucking after and I'm trying to pull him off once he starts doing this (thus using the dummy if he cracks it).
Have also considered being too hot/cold but the weather (Melb) has been both hot and cold and we dress him in grobags accordingly so I am quite sure he is not too hot or cold.
I have had people suggest teething for the past 2 months for every problem... but still no teeth, I'm not convinced that is the cause.
I'm not really prepared to let him cry for hours at night at this age (or any age, my tolerance for crying at night is limited to about 5mins), and I'm not convinced it will help if he is hungry. Anything I do to try and settle him without feeding has been unsuccessful and then I'm up twice as long as I would be if I just fed him.
I know babies change their sleep patterns all the time etc but I want to ensure I'm not encouraging a waking-at-night habit, and I'm wandering when will this end??!! We are starting solids in a couple of weeks, although I know this doesn't make them sleep better at night part of me is hoping it might?? Is he waking more often because BM is no longer keeping him full for long?
Anyone had any experience and success?
Help, I am so tired! I can't catch up on sleep during day because he's a cat napper