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    Default *Spin-off* Would you leave your DH if you caught him watching p@rn?

    Yep it's the topic of the day!!!

    So there seems to be polarised opinions on it. Watching it, the industry, partners watching it.


    Just wondering if anyone would actually split because of it. Or would it be the deceit involved? Or both?

    Can't do a poll because i'm an idiot and don't know how

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    Not if she was watching p0rn (she does on occasion). If I had asked her to stop because it upset me and she continued to watch it anyway? Or watched it privately and lied about it? Yes.

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    Pretty much what Forkie said. He doesn't, but if he did I wouldn't be okay with it. However...I wouldn't end a relationship just because of that, it would more be a matter of not stopping if it bothered me/lying about it.

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    These habits don't develop over night. When getting in serious relationships people need to find out their sexual comparability as well. It's a huge thing

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    Nope, wouldn't/doesn't bother me in the slightest. Although we mostly watch it together (and spend the whole time making fun of the people in it). Unless it was something illegal and disturbing (not going into specifics). To me, its no different to him watching a Hollywood movie with s3x scenes.


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    Quote Originally Posted by happygirl1982 View Post
    These habits don't develop over night. When getting in serious relationships people need to find out their sexual comparability as well. It's a huge thing
    I agree, but add in ethical compatibility also. DH and I met young and over the last fourteen years we've changed our views on pron, we no longer consume it and tbh I'd be really shocked, angry, hurt etc... if I found him using pron. He'd feel the same if the situation were reversed.

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    No, but I would pull the cords from the fans and then seal up the tower with a bit of no more gaps. Turn it on a leave it.

    Try watching porn on your pile of melted plastic douchbag!!!

    But really, I probably wouldn't, he does way more things I could leave him for before porn was an issue
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    No.Not unless it was a major problem (like doing it everyday)

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    No, not if I just sprung him watching porn (this has happened before).

    There'd be conversations and blah blah blah... I'd want him to stop, but I wouldn't expect it to be an overnight thing. It would be a long, ongoing process. It still is in this house - but it's a LOT better than it was, and so as it seems to be continuing in that direction, I am happy enough for now.

    It's something young men are taught is acceptable - in fact, it's encouraged - from a young age... I don't expect that me saying "Don't do it!" is going to make him immediately stop... but the habit is becomming less and less, and I think he's mostly looking at girls posing in underwear/nude these days... relatively soft stuff compared to the past.

    I hope it stops one day, but as I said, I know it's going to take a while...

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    Nope.


 

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