As stated, I'm in tears nightly lately. My eldest throws massive tantrums the second I mention bath time. He will get in, sometimes on his own, sometimes with encouragement. Then the screaming starts. Or should I call it wailing. It is painful fake crying. No tears or anything.
He doesn't want to get dry. He doesn't want to get dressed etc. each stage involves me ignoring, reasoning, forcing etc. and takes a good 5 - 10 minutes minimum. My normal failsafe counting backwards trick doesn't even work.
Tonight it took me over an hour from when he lost the plot halfway through our shower until sleep. It often takes this long. He gets to the point where, when you ask him what he wants he answers "I don't know". I think he gets himself so worked up that he genuinely doesn't know.
I have to try and deal with a lot of it myself. Hubby has a short fuse and, while he tries, it is too much for him to deal with for more than a few minutes. Our marriage is already rocky ATM and this is causing another stress.
My youngest throws tantrums too so I have wondered if it is a learnt behaviour. DS2 cries to get picked up etc as he is frustrated at his inability to express himself. At 19 months this form of tantrum throwing works, although I ignore the ones thrown because he doesn't get his own way.
Ugh. I hope this makes sense. I'm in tears and on my phone. If you have any tips or insight please share with me. I'm not sure how much more I can take.