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    Default Would you keep your ex-husbands surname?

    Why would you?

    Why wouldn't you?

    ETA: How would you feel if your husband had an ex wife who kept his surname?
    Last edited by BlissedOut; 11-12-2011 at 12:24.

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    For me personally, I probably would, it's my childrens surname and I like it better than my maiden name.

    MIL kept hers and FILs new wife is furious she won't change it (MIL didn't want the divorce), MIL reasons she's had it for over 1/2 her life and it's her kids and grandkids name.

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    No, i wouldnt. If he got remarried id feel odd sharing the same last name as his new wife... And just...its an ugly last name id gladly have mine back.

    But it would annoy me id have diff names to my boys, maybe id change theirs too? This all seems a bit extreme.


    Good question op.

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    Ive never been married, so my input might not be relevant, but I think I would change it back to my maiden name.

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    I've just recently changed back to my maiden name after getting divorced a couple of years ago.
    My new partner popped the question then we found out we were pregnant and DF didn't want his child associated in any way with my ex after all his threats and basically making our lives miserable for 2 years. I feel really good getting back to me

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    I'd keep it. My reasoning is too complicated to type out on a flat battery.

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    I'd keep it. Its the same as the kids and I like it better than my maiden name.

    The fact that I would have the same surname as his "new" wife, which would undoubtedly annoy her, would delight me thoroughly...but I'm a b!tch like that.

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    No I wouldn't keep it, For me its weird. Id have taken that name out of love and a bonding relationship and well that no longer would exist to I dont think id be entitled to use the name.

    I think it'd also be strange for any future girlfriends or wives. Id not want to be with/marry someone whos already got an ex wife with his name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lemonhead View Post
    The fact that I would have the same surname as his "new" wife, which would undoubtedly annoy her, would delight me thoroughly...but I'm a b!tch like that.
    Your mission in life is to put everyone off marrying your husband in the unlikely event you divorce isn't it?

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    I never changed my surname when I got married so I guess it is a bit of a mute point for me but if I had changed it I would definately return to my maiden name as the 'family name' would no longer have the same meaning to me.


 

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