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    Default The Art of Gift Giving

    I know I should be grateful I have wonderful family, friends and work collegues that love me. And I don't want to seem an ungrateful cow... but I need to vent about what I believe is the lost art of gift giving.

    Last night my MIL gave me a monsturous piece of costume jewellry. A bangle bracelet thing, 3 rows of cheap plastic pearls with a massive diamonte bow clasp. Recently my Aunt in Law gave me a bright yellow taffeta shawl which has a massive flower to fasten it.

    Now, I'm a jeans and tee shirt kind of woman, dependable in this style since before I can remember. If ever I wear jewellry other than my wedding rings, it's a pair of hippy earings from say Tree of Life. If I ever have to get dressed up, I opt for under-stated. I can't for the life of me believe that my MIL saw this horrid bracelet and thought... oh this would be PERFECT for my DIL!

    DH and I were invited to a Christmas in July dinner. Our hostess suggested a chris kringle of $20 each. On one income this is money DH and I can ill afford but in the spirit of the occassion we went along with it. The person I selected is an avid cook. I struggled across town in traffic to Victoria's Basement and got him a set of 2 herb motar and pestles on sale. An inspired gift I reckon

    .... I got a tiny tub of no name body butter, that actually looked as if it belonged in part of a bigger gift set.... from the hostess!

    My bestie and I have birthdays at around the same time. My best friend knows my taste and visa versa more than anyone. She lives at the beach and has the same size shoe as me. I got her a pair of flip flops in her favourite colour. She got me one of those gift sets shower gell and hand cream. The ones you get in a sale bucket at the front of a chemist.

    Last year for work chris kringle the maximum was $15. The lady I picked was mid 20s always beautifully dressed and trendy. I got her a fashion mag from the UK. I got 6 ferreror roches.

    On Christmas day last year, my mother got me a strap-less hippy dress, in XXXL. Firstly she knows I can't wear strapless dresses due to my large bust size, which I inherited from her. Secondly... I'm a size 12. She saw me eyeing the size and said 'It was the only dress like that in the shop'. I was like 'it's beautiful mum' but secretling thinking 'why not just get me a pair of earrings then?'

    I've been with my husband for 10 years and it's gotten to a point where I just get what I want and he (reluctantly wrapps it - why should he wrap it when I know what it is? ). Last year, he gave me the Steven Fry autobiography. Apparently one time I said I liked him..... In all our time together he KNOWS I only read fantasy and horror. I suppose I give him credit for thinking outside the square. The book remains unread (by me - he read it though).

    Look I'm a full time working mum and the sole bread-winner of my family... I know what it's like to be short of money and time. But seriously, I would even love if someone gave me a New Idea and a can of coke and handed it too me and said 'I got this because I thought you should put your feet up'. I would be thrilled because they had actually thought about me!

    Now I must suffer through yet another Christmas with a forced grin, getting junk that I don't want and doesn't suit me at all. It just sucks because I love giving thoughtful gifts tailored for the person and I feel like I get given things where I feel like an after-thought.

    OK - ungrateful biach rant over
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    I always get giving the wrong size or things that I would just never wear or use. My brother always takes the easy route of a voucher.

    For me, giving a gift isn't about the price of the item, it is about the thought. Taking 5 minutes to think about the person you want to buy for isn't really that hard.

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    Doon't feel bad! You're not alone! I can count the amount of well thought out presents I have received on one hand. DP this year was outstanding I must say. She put so much thought into it! No one else ever does though!!

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    I know exactly what you mean. Sorry I had a little chuckle at your post only because I could have written it myself. I am like you I put so so much thought into presents. Last Christmas I bought dh's friend a camera as they were leaving the next day for overseas and I knew she had an old camera so I thought Id buy a nice slick camera that she could slip in to her hand bag. We couldn't really afford it but it was what I felt she needed and she bought me a towel, yep one bath towel and might I add they have a lot more money than what we do. Its not about the money but there was no thought whatsoever. I love stationery she could have even bought me a $2 pen and I seriously would have thought awesome she actually thought about me. For me it is definitely the thought not the price as AG has mentioned but when a gift is given for the hell of it like "oh that will do" I would rather get no gift at all.

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    I totally agree with you Naboo.

    I love giving gifts and enjoy getting them so I do put thought into it 99% of the time (the remaining 1% I reserve now for people who give no thought whatsoever to me so they get some non descript item).

    It really isn't about the cost, you can get lovely items for a small amount of money. I have been given expensive gifts that are ill thought out and they sit right along side the cheap ill thought out gifts in the cupboard and eventually the table at one of my garage sales.

    I am not a fan of those generic gift cards either. I will reluctantly give them if someone really asks for them but I much prefer to think about what the person is like or what they have mentioned through out the year and get them something special.

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    I hear you!!
    I absolutely detest hampers. They're not well thought out, they're not generous, they're not unique. They are usually just some bit of crap grabbed in coles on the way to the checkout, a 'that'll do' sort of a gift and it drives me crazy!
    I put so much time, effort and thought into gifts. I'd rather be given a nice card than a gift hamper!

    Rant over

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    I love hampers when they are ones that people have put together themselves of things that I like mmmm a gourmet cheese, crackers and antipasto or home baked goodies will always put a smile on my face.

    But I agree that the standard ones at supermarkets are usually purchased when the gift giver doesn't really know the person they are buying for or they couldn't be bothered putting any thought into it.

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    I agree with pp, to the point of next year we will buy for children and that's it! My dh family decided this year we are doing secret Santa with a $50 limit... However all we are doing is sending money to each other!! I send $50 they send $50 It's so stupid! Why bother?

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    My DH talked MIL out of giving me a SNUGGIE(!) she had bought for my birthday last year. She has also given me a pandora bracelet, which I've never worn since I don't wear silver jewellery. She tries, but I wish she would just run ideas by DH before she wasted money on stuff that isn't going to be used.

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    Quote Originally Posted by louellyn View Post
    I love hampers when they are ones that people have put together themselves of things that I like mmmm a gourmet cheese, crackers and antipasto or home baked goodies will always put a smile on my face.

    But I agree that the standard ones at supermarkets are usually purchased when the gift giver doesn't really know the person they are buying for or they couldn't be bothered putting any thought into it.
    I agree Louellyn! A hamper put together by someone is a lovely, thoughtful gift
    One grabbed from the coles checkout though? No way!


 

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