Stepkids. The boy is 14, the girl is 17.
As much as I try, the more time I spend with them, the more I dislike them.
I know this little dummy spit is going to sound juvenile but I am at my wits end....they are fat, lazy, stupid, greedy, spoiled brats. Spitting images of their mother to be honest.
Usually when they are here I do as best I can to avoid spending time with them under the guise of allowing them to spend most of their time with us with their father. All the while counting down the days till they are 18 and talking up the virtues of going overseas or to uni in another state.
But we've recently moved away from them so have them for less weekends but more holidays.....this year we've got them until after New Year (SIX weeks) and less than half way through the visit I just don't think I am going to make it.
All they do is sit on their arses, eating and playing on computers. Thursday the girl didn't get out of her pyjamas, spent the whole day on her computer and ate TWO packets of sweet cream biscuits. We live in a fairly 'cosy' townhouse so as a result they are always under foot. We're walking distance to local shops, the beach, a short bus ride (or bike ride) to the movies and a larger mall, we've got parks and bike track nearby, we even got them gym memberships, fishing, snorkelling and all sorts of other beach gear yet all they do is eat, make a mess and sit around the house.
Meaning I spend my whole time shopping, cleaning up after them and trying not to lose my temper and tell them to get off their fat arses and get out of the bloody house. I work from home so don't get the escape of going to work but have taken to going to the gym twice a day and packing up my computer and working from a coffee shop some days because I just can't stand the sight of them for another minute.
The daughter is the worst...she's also rude and selfish. When I do draw the line about something she'll call her mother to complain and then go into a sulk. Last week I asked her not to eat something because it was for dinner and she stormed off to her room and didn't come out for 24 hours.
My partner and I have 'spoken' and he keeps saying he'll speak to them about it, but it never eventuates or if he does they ignore him. His issue is firstly that he has a higher tolerance for mess than I do and secondly that he has never said 'no' to either of them in their life. I don't think he knows how to. He travels alot for work, always has so he has never had to put up with them full time. When they do get disciplined it is purely verbal and quite pathetic - there are never any consequences - so there is no disincentive to repeating the behaviour. Which means nothing ever changes.
I have asked them, very nicely, to please clean up after themselves or to give me a hand with things like hanging up or folding laundry but they just ignore me - in their minds household chores are the adults job.
Right now for example, I am seething.... at 4pm I got back from the supermarket said that I'd like them to peel the potatoes for dinner. It is 6.30pm and neither of them has raised a finger, yet at 7pm they'll start asking when dinner will be ready. I'm tempted to walk out, call a friend and go out for dinner. But I'm not giving in tonight. Someone will peel those potatoes or there will be no dinner.
I am about to go on strike, no more shopping, no more cleaning, no more cooking. Assuming I don't completely lose the plot first. Might even go and stay with my sister or find an excuse for a work trip. But then I think why should I be forced out of my home by these vile little *********?
And I know it isn't me being intolerant, or that they are like that because they are 'just teenagers' - my friends don't put up with this **** from their kids and even direct members of THEIR family (specifically my partners sister ) agree that they are little aresholes.
I don't expect any answers, I just needed to vent, get this off my chest and try to make it through till January with my sanity in tact.