Yes, he is the father regardless and deserves that respect.
No, they should almost always have their mother's surname.
It depends on what BOTH parents prefer.
Only if the man is a regular in the child's life.
Not if the mother doesn't want it to be.
Not if they're not a couple when the mother has the baby.
Other (please tell!)
WTF? This poll has stupid options! (Shut up - I couldn't think of any better ones! lol)
Im an 'other', i was going to say 'It depends on what BOTH parents prefer' but thats vetoedif mum is single & dad is no where to be seen.
Trio have DH's name, i didnt want them to have my name cause i wasnt keeping it. Even if we didnt get married, i wouldnt have kept my name. Would have changed it to DH's anyways.
Just a casual reminder that often polls are answered on the fly, and that not everyone has as much time (that's no dig at anyone - clearly i've been a prolific poster myself even if that's slowed down lately).
I wish i still had as much time for bubhub as i used to
I think there is no right of wrong. It's an individual thing. I have my mothers surname because I never knew my dad. DS has his dad's because I like it better, how superficial. XDP really wanted him to have his surname, and I wasn't overly fussed.
I think it's completely dependent on the situation at hand. I don't agree with just giving any child it's father's surname willy nilly just because it's the done thing though.
I had my mother's surname when I was younger because my bio dad wasn't in the picture, I changed it to my step-dad's when he married mum because I wanted the same last name as my future siblings.
I am planning on changing my surname to DPs (or combining the two together) so when we have kids we all have the same surname. This is important to us mostly because we want all our children to have no doubt we are a family and they are their siblings regardless of the fact that they won't all share the same genetics.
I think it depends on the situation, I voted it depends on what both parents prefer. My children have both mine and my ex's last name (hyphenated), while their father isn't a part of their life anymore they do still have a part in their paternal family's life. I have sole parental responsibility so I could change their name and drop their fathers last name if I wanted to but at this stage I don't see a need to do that.
DD has her fathers surname, if i wasn't with him at the time she was born she would have had my surname though. She currently goes under a - surname of her dads and DH's surname (she wants to be identified as both!)
If DH and i have a child together then it will have his surname but same goes, if we split up before the child was born, it would have my surname.
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