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    My parents are the most annoying people to buy for. It's been 2 Christmasses, birthdays, mothers days and fathers days that I haven't been able to buy them something. They keep telling me they have everything. I understand this is true at their age, but surely they like some nice choccie, some nice facial cream, nice bickies, etc???

    This morning I asked what I could get them and it was the same old reply. I stopped her before she could finish and said I would get her something whether she wanted me to or not. Now I just got to get the money for it, as I haven't been paid for nearly 3 weeks. Stupid banks losing my money

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    I dont see the issue with it. Especially Christmas. When there are little kids involved, Christmas is more for them than anything else. Sure, presents are nice and everyone likes getting stuff. If someone says not to buy them anything, then dont. If you're bummed about not getting anything, spend that extra money to buy yourself something, wrap it and then open it on Christmas.

    DPs family told us the other day that they arent buying presents this year and me and DP nearly clicked our heels together in joy. We didnt have the money to do anything decent for them and now we dont need to worry about it.

    My brother and I are cancelling each other this year. Im still making him a hamper because I want to, but I know he wont give me anything...and Im totally ok with that, because we agreed on it. He will still be buying my DS something and thats all that matters to me.
    I get more expectant with birthday presents than Christmas presents to be honest.

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    This is an issue for me! Im ok with giving presents, within reason. MIL used to give $200 dollar presents to all her kids, me and nephews (4 of them). She is not wealthy but loves Christmas. Her adult kids were asking for ipods for xmas, wtf buy your own!! dh managed to instigate a more reasonable $50 limit. Though I reckon $30 is enough! Try to say no presents, but it doesn't work. Because of this everyone at DH family christmas seems to give each other gifts, cousins etc. We end up with alot of gifts that are unwanted, plus we stopped giving extended family gifts years ago, but the keep coming! We didnt give dh cousins kid a gift after mil said we should (she got so many gifts it was silly, nor would appreciate one from us who she barely knows!). I said we just have different values on gift giving, if you love giving them, then thats great but I will give what I like to whom I choose and not feel guilty!

    please no more decorative clutter, popcorn makers, turbo ovens or juicers! just have a drink with me on christmas day!

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    We don't do presents. Actually I lie, last year I had just moved and needed tea towels so my auntie bought some over lol. Presents are for kids and immediate family. As FOB and I have split, I'm only buying for DS. Christmas isn't about gifts for me. I like the food, and the drinks, and the relaxed day. Im moving house next week, have DS birthday on Saturday, still working, as well as Christmas. I couldn't be bothered with presents anyway.

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    I've actually been the one to instigate this in DH's family this year. We're buying something for his dad and nephews, but not sisters, partners, uncles, aunts and Nanna. It was just getting out of hand, we were spending SO much on presents, none of his family are well off so they can't afford it either, and we'd just end up witha bunch of crappy presents we didn't want or need.
    I'd much rather just spend the time with them, that's what Xmas should really be about, enjoying the company of lived ones, not presents.

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    I'm with you OP, my family always give presents , we start buying/organizing presents in october, i love buying for my brother and sister and parents, christmas is a big deal for us, birthdays are special but we cant always all get together but everyone always gets together for christmas lunch, we still all get presents from santa too! It is fun for kids obviously but we make it fun for adults as well, DH,s family only buy for kids but since we had DS I always at least buy his parents and sisters a photo in a frame from him

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    Quote Originally Posted by mummykitty View Post
    Our family only does kids, we have a large family and for the adults we should appreciate Xmas for the real reason to focus on time with family I don't think it's a problem I think it's a great practical idea especially as our families aren't well off so it saves alot of stress
    same here!
    an even with just kids and our parents we have 30 gifts already!

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    If you buy something because you saw it, thought of them and genuinely just want to give it to them, that's one thing. But making sure you buy everyone gifts, and then b*tching because they've said they don't want to do gifts (because they have enough stuff/are too broke to reciprocate/don't like the commercialism of christmas), well - its a bit grinchy, isn't it?

    Christmas is for the people you love, not the things you love.

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    I would kick up such a stink if my family or inlaws (less so inlaws) ever made the rule about no presents for adults. Giving and receiving at Christmas is an important and fun part of the day for me/us and I would hate for that to change. I really do not understand why this joy should be limited to children.

    My brother casually mentioned the idea of secret santa for adults and I didn't even have to pause before saying that there is no way I would ever agree to that.

    Thankfully I can never see any of the above actually happening in my family as we love buying and getting presents but I do see the amount that we spend (we are talking a lot of money in many people's eyes) decreasing in the near future and that is fine I do not expect people to have the disposable income that I do.

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    mum prefers me not to buy everyone gifts when i am low on money, and right now i'm below the poverty line. the only gift i am buying is the one for the secret santa mum wants to do for immediate family because she's sick of it being a big gift-giving affair, so i'll be spending between $15 and $25 total on gifts this year.
    still not sure what to get. what the hell does a ditzy, blonde air-head of an 18yo girl want?!


 

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