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    Default Feeling down, need to vent.

    Im abit glad my son cant comprehend what kids mean when they say hurtful things. Whenever we go playground, esp at McDonalds etc, no kids will play with my son. I get he cant talk, so cant communicate like other kids, but he is not a baby. Im sick of kids, even if there the same size/age a baby. They always call him one, and are always happy when he leaves. They say, yay his leaving, the babys leaving. Now I know their kids, but GEEZ, these things might not hurt my son, but it hurts me. My son tries real hard to play with other kids, it makes him happy, and his always very affectionate. It depresses me and I end up balling my eyes out for days. I wish kids had more compassion. BTW, does anyone know where you can buy a shirt that says you have autism, so people know and I wont get bad remarks about me and my son behind my back simply cuz people are not informed on Autism.
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    Oh hunni thats horrible!!!!

    Some kids can just be so cruel and I hate it!!!!!

    Is it possible for you to talk to the parents of these kids at these playgrounds and let them know that their kids are saying mean things and could they possibly explain to their own children "hey, be nice" etc?

    I'm so sorry you and your son have to go through this, it just sucks that parents these days arent teaching their children about how some times other chlidren have special needs and might be different and you know, hey lets be nice!!!

    The shirt idea is good, I think.....On one hand I worry it will draw unwanted attention but on theother hand, it might open the eyes of the parents so they can make sure their kids arent being mean.........

    You can always get one made up....not sure where to go in Brisbane, but in Sydney we have markets etc and they usually have stalls in them where you can get that kind of stuff made provided you're not using copyrighted logos/slogans than you can get anything you want printed on shirts or stickers for cars etc.

    for you and for your son xx

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    i have no advice, just some hugs.

    One of my friends has a wonderful 7 year old boy with Autism. He is non verbal and the sweetest little thing (although he can be a terror some days ). My son loves playing with him most of the time and would never think to call him names...and his head would roll if he did.

    I hope you have a better day today.

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    That sounds like a very hurtful situation to deal with, its so wonderful your son is affectionate and interested/ pursues social interaction considering the diagnosis of autism, that sounds really encouraging. in some ways its a good thing he's not picking up on the comments as i'm thinking it would be damaging to his self esteem. Certainly hurtful for you though, and it is a real shame kids can be so very cruel.
    Just in regard to the t shirt idea, personally i wouldnt do that. If its to say 'i have autism' then to me thats just labelling at no benefit to anyone. To be informative it would have to have some detail re non verbal etc but still thats focusing on not exactly 'the negative' but i'd really rather consider he's a beautiful little boy with interests, likes, a personality and warmth just like anyone else i'd hate for him to have a t shirt that pigeon holes him for the benefit of others who he doesnt know and are of no relevance to him. Does that make sense? I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but to me he's his own little person first, he just also happens to have autism. I see where youre coming from with the idea and i cant imagine what you must deal with from other parents etc but i fear the t shirt may lead to further problems of parents whispering to their kids or kids using it to further tease him. Awful to think about i know. An alternative might be for you to wear an autism awareness ribbon? I think they are quite colourful with a puzzle piece design. That way anyone inclined can ask about it and you can explain your sons situation if you feel you want to, or encourage them to educate themselves on autism.

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    http://www.cafepress.com.au/+autism+...Fc2ApAod_1f4OQ

    There is a cute one on there for boys - autism is my superpower. lol

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    Thanx for the link *Kris*, that is an awesome shirt

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    i was going to suggest cafepress too, they have some great shirts A lady on an autism page is making Alex some. Screen printing sorta thing.

    I also had business cards made up with Alex's name, photo, that she is autistic, please excuse my behaviour etc and websites for further info.

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    Having looked at the link, i take it back! Those shirts are Tasteful and fun, and best of all empowering.

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    Aww hun kids can be so insensitive I'm sure you'll find some kids just won't care (my kids are like that as long as they look like they want to play they'll do their best to make a new friend. Do you have any special needs groups or speech groups? My kids both did speech groups and there were a few autistic kids in there

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    his starting 1 1/2 days at an ECDP in January, so hopefully he will make some friends like him there.


 

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