What are your family's sleeping arrangements?

**JanetF** · 28-09-2005 11:58

What has worked well at your place?

We started out 3 in a bed in the queen sized bed with ds in between. Lovely from day 1! As time passed, I found sleeping with dp and ds less than peaceful so dp moved into our spare room and set up the prebaby water bed again - no more snoring! We also have a sidecar cot with my queen bed which was good with 3 in the bed. We still have dp in to visit now and then and it feels like a lovely treat now! It's also great to have a second adult bed set up permanently for well, you know what

I love having my own room and I don't know if I ever want to share permanently again LOL.

How is it at your house?

**Sarie** · 28-09-2005 12:07

We only have Nathan in with us if he's sick or has had a bad dream. So it's only my hubby and I in our queen bed. Nathan has bunk beds with the bottom being a double bed and he has PJ in his cot in there too.
I don't think I would ever have either of the kids in our room as a permanent arrangement. Hubby and I need our time together too.
JMO

**drewid** · 28-09-2005 12:19

Hmm no co-sleeping here either. I had Andrew in bed with at the hospital which was lovely. But once at home, he just never settled no matter what we tried. After much experimentation we actually found that he was most comfy and settled and slept well in a cot in his own room.

Even now when he's upset we try to bring him in but he just isn't interested.

But he does love to play on our bed - we spend quite a bit of time there during the day! Its a nice soft place to fall when he is sitting up and he can play with his toys and I get a bit of lie down too

**Harmony83** · 28-09-2005 12:52

Just me and my DF in bed too, DS will only sleep in his cot now, which is sad because I miss snuggling with him and having him sleep in my arms. Oh well when he's older we can have afternoon sleeps together!! Funny when he would only sleep in our arms and bed, all I wanted was for him to sleep in his own cot, now I miss him...

**Peaceangels** · 28-09-2005 13:23

Each to their own, but I agree with Sarie - hubby and I need our time together and these days sometimes its bed time when that occurs!! We still love our cuddles every morning too and then the boys jump in and join us.
They sleep with us only when they are sick or scared, but that is rarely and they both LOVE their own beds - when DS1 gets into bed he says "i love my bed mum" as he snuggles in!
I am curious with co-sleeping, when do they go into their own bed and how do you get them to?

**belinda** · 28-09-2005 13:43

yeah i agree to me and dh need our time together as well.... luke has slept in his room since we came home as he would settle in our room and he only sleeps with us if he wont settle through the night but that hardly ever as he likes to be in his own cot..... but we do sometimes have an afternoon slep together in my bed...

but thats right each to there own...

belinda

**Foxymoron** · 28-09-2005 13:57

Myself, DD and DP in one bed and the other two sleep in bunks in the same room, so everyone feels secure and cosy.

**talon** · 28-09-2005 14:21

DS spent the first three months next to my side of our bed in a bassinette. then he went into his own room in his cot. transition was very smooth although occasionally i did end up on the floor in his room if he had a bad night.

i like to keep our bedroom as our space at night time - it gives us a small amount of time together after ds has gone to sleep to talk about the day etc. That is, unless we fall asleep before we get to that point (often happens!)

**jamb** · 28-09-2005 14:24

We often have our bub join us from the early am feed- and boy does it make it more peaceful! We all sleep so much better especially bub! I love the extra few hours in the morning!

So much so that we are upgrading to a king bed so that if we want bub all night he can join us. Hubby is making a simple frame to save money, I love his enthusiasm for our family!

As for sex, well we are not limited to the bedroom, only one baby and a whole rest of the house for us! Thats always been the way so it works well for us!

People tell us that we are creating a rod for our own back but bugger them. They are the same people who said cuddling/rocking him to sleep would result in him not self settling- and he settles just as well on his own as with us.

**JanetF** · 28-09-2005 14:42

I trust my son will make that transition when he's ready like he has crawled, walked and talked in his own time. We'll set up a spare single bed in the next year and let him see how he feels about day sleeps first and if he wants to move into it he will. I've never had an allnighter and never been hugely sleep deprived. He has never cried at night. I fed him every 2 hours from birth till 10 months and couldn't have done that with him in another bed. This time in our lives is so short and I want it to be the best it possibly can. In my family, cosleeping means everyone's needs are met

I sleep, he gets fed! And adult time can be conducted in the other bedroom