To put it bluntly my father is a bully, loud overbearing and abusive.
After years of torment I have finally told him to leave and that he isn't not welcome and will not speak to me like he just did again.
He has gotten away with it all his life.
Basically it was over a set top box....
He apparently lent (gave as far as I knew) us a set top box, it was pretty dodgy so we eventually got a new, talked to my mother about if it was wanted back and was told no.
Well today she asked for it, I had a look and couldn't find it and assumed its gone and said as much.....
Well my father went off his head calling me a selfish f***ing B*tch etc until I told him to stop talking to me like that and in front of my son but he continued as he always does.
So I told him to leave as his rant was getting louder and my son was starting to whimper in my arms. He blamed me for people not being able to relate to me and that I needed to soften up and kept going on with F***, B*tch etc as he stormed out the house
He went out and got in the car and my mother stayed behind where I reinforced that he was no longer welcome and if she tried to bring him over when she visited neither would be welcomed (they try to pressure me into doing what they want all the time).
Keeping in mind that he knew that Monday morning I was up from 2am throwing up and last night was up most of the night with my son with a temp of 39.3C add into this my partner is out to sea and virtually impossible to contact.
I do not want him as a role model for my son and have told me mother as far as my relationship with him is concerned its a write off.
phew.....glad I got all that off my chest. and feel like I have done the right thing. I have put up with abusive relationships and have a very sexist and rude brother (only one out of 4 luckily) that I feel are from my fathers influence on me and all the family.
I guess if anything I am wanting advice on excluding him from my life without having to sacrifice the relationship my son has with his grandmother, which to be honest she hasn't put much effort into either but she does try sometimes.