Answers for the Do you have kids question?

[katezane]

I learnt at work not to ask the kids question. A few of my clients who have tried ivf and the lot with still no children. After my sil loosing a baby and myself having an ectopic and miscarriage. It's a very personal topic and I don't think people just have the right to go around asking.

[ferdy83]

I am new on here but this is a great thread to read. A lot of people ask DH and I when we are having kids and we are getting to the point of truffling to know what to say. Usually it's something along the lines of "we have 15 nieces and nephews...why add to that?" we try to make a joke of it but recently my FIL asked me when I was going to do my duty and give him some grand kids!! I lost it at this and told my DH that he better chat to him because I cannot handle him talking to me like that. If we weren't having trouble conceiving it wouldn't be an issue I guess and my FIL doesn't know the whole story so I give him some slack.

Reading others posts gives me some other options

[Smyles]

My response changes depending on the person asking & my mood. I usually respond with "having bubbas isn't easy for us" or I have said "I'll buy a few when Coles starts selling them". The second isn't the nicest response, but sometimes enough is enough & the look on their face is priceless.

[moomechanic]

Went away recently and being the young couple eveyone kept asking if we had kids, the last one I simply said when IVF works!! Turned out she was an FS at the clinic I go to!!!! I now have a new fs haha!!

[Lillaa]

Depending on who is asking I sometimes say that we do a lot of practicing. The look on my grandma's face recently was priceless!!

[fingers xd]

If its family and friends that know our situation they always ask how am I going with it all, at first they asked nervously but I told them I didn't mind them asking after all they had genuine concern I wasn't stressing myself out too much.

But people I don't know very well or strangers that ask I just tell them we are thinking about it but we'll see.

One lady I was sitting next to at a wedding kept asking why I was waiting cause I wasn't getting any younger. I told her if she gave me her working ovaries then I'll give it a go!