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    Hi Michelle, Welcome to the thread.

    Dandelion sorry to hear AF arrived.

    My story is similar to everyone else. I didn't meet my man till I was 33. I spent my 20's travelling and working overseas. I had a few boyfriends, but I was also a commitment phobe which I also felt came from my parent's divorce. They didn't divorce till I was 21 and they really should have done it years before. I also started fretting that I would never meet someone to want to settle down with and have kids. Once I had reconciled myself to the fact that it may never happen and that is ok, I met my perfect man. I started mentioning TTC to him about a year ago, but he wanted the house paid off first. He said to me a few weeks ago that he always assumed it would happen as soon as we thought about it, and he wished we had started a year ago.

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    We've had plenty of opportunity (met DH at 22, got married at 27 - about to hit our 8th wedding anniversary) but just haven't felt that TTC was a priority until recently. Until earlier this year, we hadn't even decided whether we would ever have kids.!

    We've enjoyed doing a lot of travel that wouldn't have been possible with kids (and there are still lots of places on the list we'd like to go), and my work wasn't conducive to kids either. I was FIFO until four years ago, and since then have been trying to work my way up the org structure. I fear they won't want to promote me further once I'm pregnant and can't be solely work-focused. (Just wait till I tell them I want to take 12 months maternity leave...)

    I started to think about TTC a little over a year ago, but then a SIL (who I can't stand!) announced she was pregnant (first one on DH's side), and I didn't want to give her the satisfaction of thinking she had influenced me in anyway if I also got preggers. (Yep, I know that's stupid and petty....) Having my 35th birthday earlier this year, though, gave me a bit of a wake up call and when DH and I discussed it, we decided we'd both like to give it a shot.

    So, we're now waiting till May to start ( don't want to risk a Christmas baby). I'm worried that DH thinks it will be easy to conceive, since the rest of my family have reproduced like rabbits. They all did it a lot younger, though, so I'm not sure that it's the same situation. Guess we'll see.


    What's got me a bit disturbed lately is a couple of things co-workers have said (perfectly innocent comments that I probably wouldn't have noticed if TTC wasn't on my brain) that suggest they've all concluded I'm now beyond having kids. I'm 35 - it's not that old!

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    Wow, great to read other's stories. I'm really surprised how similar many of us are in many ways. Gosh, divorced parents have a bit of an effect hey? For me I was always still a big believer in marriage but I think divorced parents made me feel I wanted my own career, stability etc first as I'd seen my mum 'left in the lurch' a bit without that.
    And how good are these fellas?! It looks like those of us who held out got some good ones in the end. As many of my friends who married young have unfortunately ended in divorce, I always joke about being a 38 year old bride that I just skipped my first marriage and waited on the right one

    Maplefern - damn that thyroid! I hope it starts behaving quickly and you can get on with TTC ASAP.

    Dandelion 5 - Sorry to read that AF arrived. Hope the relaxed approach helps out.

    Michelle - welcome! Great to have you along

    I'm on CD1 today so let's hope this month is a little more organised than last for hubby and I and we at least get a chance to hope.

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    Ooh, sorry Gentoo! I meant to write that I know exactly what you mean about the over 35 comments. I think a lot of it is media though. It seems to have become the magic number for everyone to get concerned. There are so many factors though and age is only one. Just prove 'em wrong! That'll stuff 'em!

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    Nat, I love your line about skipping the first marriage and waiting for the right one - mind if I steal it? Mind you it might not go down as well with my in-laws; I'm DH's second wife after the first marriage only lasted a year or so.

    I'm not a happy Roro today. I'm 13 DPO, tested yesterday to no avail, and just now got the results of DH's second swimmer test and they're pretty awful. My doc has suggested we get to the local fertility specialists without delay. Sigh.

    Wine is called for.

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    Oh no RoRo- What a downer. Hope there are still some determined little swimmers there. Never give up on that. I know its a cliche but it's true.... it only takes one!

    I completely agree....sometimes the only answer is wine.

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    How punishing can one get? I have been really good at not testing before AF due for months now, but after lap I have crumbled. I have a box of 50 ic's that have barely been touched and the past two mornings and Friday night (?) I tested. I know I ovulated on my blocked side, why am i putting myself thru seeing pure white where I wish for dark coloured line! I'm 12dpo today and tomorrow is my birthday, give me strength not to test tomorrow!!

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    Hi

    My story is I have had two long term relationships. Unfortunately the first one was on and off over a 15 year period. I finally decided to go to Melbourne and take my heart back to Sydney. I so wanted my own child but did not have a partner. I met my now DP about 20 years ago through work but he was married and I was young and having too much fun (yep was still involved with Melbourne). I was ensconced in my job too. Back in 2006 my DP left wife and we started seeing each other later that year. I told him I wanted children and he told me about vasectomy. We looked into reversal but they couldn't guarantee it. Then I started hot flushes. So went to FS an started to try IVF with my eggs. All my levels were haywire and I was finally told I have low egg reserves and I need a donor. I also have problems with my thyroid which could account for all my syptoms. Went to another clinic and tried DHEA but it didn't work. Finally I found a donor. She fell pregnant 2 months later. So then I had to wait for her to get back to normal (which took forever). I started thinking she would not go through with it. Then last year in November we got 6 eggs, 2 died and 4 fertilised. I had FET in Feb with a BFN. I am taking a bit of time to destress for next FET end April. I have 2 frosties left and am scared to d++++ that they might not survive thawing or BFN. Then it will be back to looking for a donor. I think that the hard part getting a donor who will give to my age.

    Michelle

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    Happy birthday Wunsi!!

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    No birthday joy for me, AF next day, not surprised though. Easter drinks in order!


 

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