I have done everything I was supposed to with my kids. I have comforted them at every cry, I have cuddled them everytime they wanted to no matter how tired I was. I have let them sleep in our bed, I've slept on the floor of their bedroom, patted them to sleep, rocked them to sleep, fed them to sleep. I have never let them cry because for me it just felt unnatural. I honestly thought that being there for them I would help them grow into a peaceful sleeping routine. But I was wrong, I was very wrong. I have created 3 of the worst sleepers on the planet, or at least it feels that way. I don't really believe in controlled crying but what we are doing is not working. None of them have ever slept properly. We have only recently got master 4 sleeping in his own room, in his own bed. And that wasn't his choice, that was when I finally put my foot down because I had no energy left for him. Even then it is a fight to get him to bed and he is a restless sleeper. Master 2 will not sleep anywhere but our bed without screaming the house down. Even in our bed he wakes many times during the night. And little miss, well currently she is in a streak of waking every 20 minutes after last being settled, yep that's right, every 20 minutes. She will not settle without the boob, trying to settle her without it results in hyperventilating hysterical screaming. Because Master 2 will not sleep anywhere but our bed, not even a bed on the floor. I have a choice, get up to the baby every 20 minutes and let master 2 sleep in our bed or move master 2 out of our bed and put baby in it and then have master 2 screaming for hours on end. They do not sleep, they do not settle, they just wake constantly. DD also won't nap during the day unless in my arms so I don't even get a chance to rest then, not that my 4yo naps anymore anyway. I am lucky if I get 2hrs of broken sleep a night, every night. I mean I expect night waking, I expect night feeds, but I was kind of hoping with all my kids older than 6 months I should get at least 6 hours sleep a night, I would kill for 6 hours sleep a night.
I don't want to let them cry or resort to sleep training but I don't know what else to do. I am a complete wreck from years of no sleep. My hair is falling out, I have nose bleeds, headaches, I am constantly sick or injured and it takes me weeks to recover. I am zinc deficient, iron deficient, b vitamin deficient, pretty much everything deficient and its all because I am so run down. Please surely it's not supposed to be like this