I have a 4 year old boy and a 1 year old girl. I started back at work 3 days a week last week. I really thought it would be a good thing to go back to work part time for me and for the finances and a good compromise for the kids. BUT I hate it and just want to be with my little girl. Of course I miss my boy to but we have enrolled him in day care 3 days next year regardless just to get him ready for school year after. he loves pre school and looks forward to playing wit his friends. My 1 year old though is still just a bub and i spent the 3 days in tears misiing her. Everyone says how lucky I am to get 3 days and its a good balance and how important it is to go back to work. Its almost like i feel judged that im not very worthwhile if I dont work and more valued and important if I do. My husband is supportive and says if I really dont want to go back he is happy to keep struggling with finances and its up to me and he doesnt mind if I never went back. My biggest concern is if I dont take this job and leave it until DD is at school I will have been out for about 7-8 years (with son to) and ill be unemployable and will really really strugg;le to find work back in an office (ill be over 40 to). Do I take the risk and leave and be a mum full time or just take this job so I can keep in job market and keep skills up ? Some reports I read say a few days a week at day care are really good for kids and others say not. Im also stupidly worried about being judged and disreagarded generally because i dont work. Just cant decide what to do. ???? What are others experience?