I have no issue at all with people having a couple of drinks at a kids birthday party. I think the day can still be about the child and alcohol be served. But if you dont want alcohol served at or brought to your childs party then i would be upfront and put it on the invites/let people know. Hopefully if you explicitly state it then people will respect your wishes.
I think at a dedicated party for kids - like kindy or school friends etc then it would be inappropriate. However, if it's a gathering of family and friends them I don't have a problem with some bubbles being served with the cake.
But then I can't think of anyone I know who would have more than a glass or two at such an event so it's unlikely to turn into some sort of drinking fest.
There's nothing wrong with letting people know you don't want alcohol at a prty though - your party your rules.
yeah I agree with Lucy.
If i dropped my kids off to a party and came back to find the adults drinking, I would not be impressed. If I am at a party and adults are staying then it would not worry me so much.
I don't attend kids parties unless there is alcohol available! Well no, I do but I prefer to be allowed to bring a drink or two to make it more bearable. We allow alcohol at our little one's party too.
If I was in your shoes I'd just put 'NO ALCOHOL ALLOWED' on the party invitations - maybe even elaborate on that and say anyone who brings alcohol will be asked to leave.
We allow alcohol at kids birthday celebrations FOR adults only to consume - how else can a child learn the responsible consumption of alcohol?
But certainly not when it's kids only or a party designed just for kids
I haven't served alcohol at either of DS's birthdays. DH and I aren't big drinkers and our feeling are that kids parties are not about boozing it up. That's what adult parties are for.
So far we have only had family parties so hasn't been an issue for us, but I can see that changing when we have parties with his friends as he gets older. Not sure how I will deal with it, probably just put no alcohol on the invite like PP's have suggested. Or have a morning party!
I think it would be a minority of people that would "booze it up" at a children's birthday party.
As long as it's responsibile drinking, I can't see the issue. For me personally that is.
But to the OP, you could just put a footnote on the invite "this is an alcohol-free event" !!! Hope its a good party.
was implying that if you do serve/drink alcohol at a kids party you can't enjoy the party without it, and therefore have a problem- which isn't the case for most people. For most people it is simply another drink option, not being served for its alcoholic properties, as no-one is getting intoxicated from it.If you can't enjoy a childs birthday, relax and socialise without alcohol, then you have a drinking problem IMO.
I wouldn't usually weigh in a debate like this but I think what ICanDream is saying is being misrepresented.
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