Park doesn't work for DS1 because its in winter and always raining but the playcentre idea is a good one.
I have actually brought it up before and got "well, there's no real point in people without kids coming then if they can't drink" erm ok, don't come then.
I personally don't think alcohol has a place at a child's birthday party. Seriously, it's a child's birthday! It's their special day, everyone's focus should be on the child for that ONE day. If someone can't attend without alcohol then it's simple really - they don't come.
I wouldn't beat around the bush either, or change venues to places where it's illegal to drink. If I had family members like that, I would be telling them outright and not allowing it whatsoever so that they are aware for any future parties.
I imagine my ex-DH's brother would be like this, however he hasn't met our kids let alone attended birthday's. I wouldn't hesitate to say no alcohol and smoking at DS's birthday if he did come though.
share a book (07-11-2011)
I'm going to go against the grain, we have always had alcohol at our kids parties, whether or not they have been at home or in the park. We have never had any one get drunk or close too (it's only our closest family and friends) and it has never caused a problem.
I think it is very much each to your own and what you and your family are comfortable with.
If you can't enjoy a childs birthday, relax and socialise without alcohol, then you have a drinking problem IMO.
Maybe write 'Food and drinks provided' on the invite. If someone brings alcohol ask them to take it back out to their car.
I don't mind if people have a drink (as in one or two) but i think drinking to get drunk at a children's party is pretty foul.
I know at family gatherings (including for kid's birthdays) we might all have a glass of wine with our food but nobody gets drunk - i don't have issue with that. I do have issue when people start to treat a kid's party as a chance to drink it up and act like it's an adult party iykwim?
i don't like the idea of alcohol at a kids birthday party. a get-together afternoon bbq is ok to drink 1-3 drinks but seriously at a kiddies party - its a bit much. the party is for the kids. for family parties my dh might have 1 beer (but he rarely drinks) and my bil has been known to have a couple but its more at the adults birthday's not the kids ones
I hate it. I also grew up around a lot of addiction. I think alcohol for a childs party is completely inappropriate. But then nobody I know can handle their drink. I have been to birthdays from play group etc where a bit of beer was provided but you would never even notice.
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