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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    For people who think it's ok to d rink at child ren's parties what's the protocol with that? Will it be said to any other parents in the invitation? Before the party? On arrival? Will they have to find out later on collection? Would you as s ume it's ok to drink at a party where other people's children are or would you talk to other parents first?
    So far the only parties I've had has been Jasper's 1st & 2nd.

    We put 'byo alcohol' on the invite, and the time was '4pm till late' and it was a BBQ dinner.

    Jasper's 3rd b'day is in a fortnight and the friends I've invited will know its byo if they want to drink.

    And yeah I wouldn't have alcohol at a 'kids' party where parents are leaving their kids.

    I guess if anyone is ever offended that we drink a couple of wines with a BBQ dinner for jasper's birthday and I haven't specified this on the invite they can leave, I would maybe be surprised, but as long as they didn't think badly of me I wouldn't be offended.

    As for other children's parties, it would really depend on who's party it was. If it was in the early evening and I wasn't sure and didn't want to put them on the spot by asking (in case they felt uncomfortable or thought I was being inappropriate asking!) I'd probably bring wine in the car or stashed in a bag and not bring it out unless others were drinking.
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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    For people who think it's ok to d rink at child ren's parties what's the protocol with that? Will it be said to any other parents in the invitation? Before the party? On arrival? Will they have to find out later on collection? Would you as s ume it's ok to drink at a party where other people's children are or would you talk to other parents first?
    This thread isn't about parties where children are dropped off and picked up later.

    I would not be happy if my school aged child went to a party where the child's parents were the only ones supervising and were drinking. I don't drink at children's parties, but I do not have a problem with guests at my toddlers' parties at my house having a beer or wine to celebrate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    For people who think it's ok to d rink at child ren's parties what's the protocol with that? Will it be said to any other parents in the invitation? Before the party? On arrival? Will they have to find out later on collection? Would you as s ume it's ok to drink at a party where other people's children are or would you talk to other parents first?
    Well for me, for the older kids parties where parents drop the kids off (even though thats not what the thread is about), no, it's not mentioned in the invitations or anything.

    Basically, its a kids party with kids party food or a bbq, in a back yard at the kid's house. Usually the kid's parents are there, along with maybe their grandparents, a couple of other family members- aunties, uncles cousins etc. The school kids get dropped off, maybe half the parents stay, and half leave. The ones that stay are offered bbq, sandwiches, cheese and crackers whatever, and drinks- soft drink, glass of wine, a beer etc....

    Yes, I assume it is ok to have had a glass of wine at the party, although in all honesty, when it is my kid's party, or a close friend's kid's party, I don't get a chance to sit down and have one til its finished. The same as if my kid's have their friends over for a sleepover, I assume it won't be an issue if I have a glass of wine with dinner, or a couple of g&t's afterwards.

    Maybe its different for us because we are very close knit community at school, the parents all like each other and socialise together out of school. We all know each other and trust each other with our kids, and usually at the parties there are few hanging around to help out or just staying because we are good company and enjoy spending time together and with the kids. The kids parties are always very relaxed and fun, typical games, food etc, usually a few hang around afterwards for a couple more drinks- it never gets messy and there is certainly never drunkeness at the parties. There are so many adults usually (like literally at least 10) hanging around, at least a couple of whom have not had a drink at all, and the rest who may have had 1 or 2 at the most, being responsible and being able to care for the kids or drive in an emergency is not an issue at all

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    Will have to be very careful to as k in future then.

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    sorry i havnt read the whole 15 pages yet, but this is my thoughts on the origional post - i agree with lemon, i dont think kids should be around alcohol. i never drink around my child and i expect (and ask) people to afford me the same courtesy.

    my ex was/is alcohol dependant and it doesnt sit right with me, i have no problem with parents going out and having a drink when their kids are not present, but children need your full sober attention.

    if my child suddenly falls ill in the middle of the night, or something happens and i need get him to medical attention fast, i to be under the legal limit to drive (and im a P plater, so thats 0% alcohol for me)

    i went out to dinner about a month ago with a group of friends, i just went to join them for the dinner at the restaurant, they were all going to continue on drinking at a pub after the dinner, so i took my ds thinking it would be a family friendly affair, the friend who organised it assured me that no-one would be drunk that early in the night (dinner was at 7:30, it would just be one or two wines with dinner anyways) well when i got there, everyone was half cut and rather merry. i really dont need my son to see people drunkenly boob grabbing and swearing.

    no-one brings grog to my house, and when i take my ds to their place, its pre-arranged that there will be no alcohol (sounds strict, but if you knew my ex, you would understand my hang-ups)

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    If I am having people around to my house for lunch/afternoon/dinner/nighttime for a gathering then yes (within reason) regardless of the occasion or lack of occasion I will have/offer some wine/beer/sparkling. If kids are invited or around then it's an afternoon/early evening event and they will be leaving with their parents - no one is going to be rolling drunk. I drink responsibly and rarely have more than 2-3 glasses, I don't consider myself 'needing' alcohol to enjoy a party, but I like the taste so I will often have a glass.

    I would be more worried if there were older teens around and having alcohol readily available than with little kids. I wouldn't like a 15-17 yo drinking at my house.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Will have to be very careful to as k in future then.
    So just to clarify, and I ask this with complete sincerity and no judgement at all... would you not allow your child to attend a party as I've explained it above? Would you feel the same way if your child slept over at a friend's house and their mother had a glass of wine with dinner, or at your parent's house and your Dad had a beer after he mowed the lawn or something?

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    Good question Anna

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    So just to clarify, and I ask this with complete sincerity and no judgement at all... would you not allow your child to attend a party as I've explained it above? Would you feel the same way if your child slept over at a friend's house and their mother had a glass of wine with dinner, or at your parent's house and your Dad had a beer after he mowed the lawn or something?
    I can't answer for SAB but I won't.

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    Again, sincerely wondering- why?


 

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