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    Default Alcohol at kids birthday parties.

    Just curious as to how everyone else feels about having alcohol at kids birthday parties? I grew up around addiction my whole life and my mum has battled alcoholism for the past 8 years so I understand I am kind of sensitive about it.

    At all of DS1s birthday parties we have served cordial, bottles of water, various soft drinks, pop tops and fruit juice. They're always kept cold in a big tub of ice and nobody really has a problem with the drinks except a few people in my family. They also make it really obvious that they expect alcohol to be available and it p!sses me off that they come to the party with an cooler bag of beer and wine. I really don't think a childs birthday party is the place to be getting on the p!ss.

    It is DS2s 1st birthday family BBQ soon and because it is an afternoon family BBQ I've said to DH that its fine to buy 1 carton of beer to go around the people who would like one. Would probably add up to 2-3 beers each. I am kind of regretting it though because now its showing those members of my family that I'm ok with it and I don't want them to start thinking I'll be serving alcohol at all future birthdays. It really is an exception though, I wont be supplying alcohol when its a normal birthday party and there is lots of little kids around.

    Any ideas what I can do next year in regards to the kids birthdays and making it pretty obvious I'd rather people weren't bringing alcohol?

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    I peraonally dont think any alcohol needs to be served at childrens parties. If people really need that drop of alcohol theu can either not attend or hang out for few hours until they get back to their place. But then again i am basically a no child needs to be around alcohol at my place as i wont drink if coop is under my roof.

    I wish i had the strength to tell dad i dont like him drinking at my place when he visits.

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    I'm with you really. For her first birthay we had family come over later that night with an esky and a plate of food. Even though she was in bed by then it didn't s it well with me. It was *her* s pecial day. It was n't a d ay for people to drink. At any other party we may have it's different. We have those "bring a chair/plate of food/your own esky" type get togethers fairly often but not for a child's party.

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    Im the same Bec, I can have 1-2 drinks at dinner very RARELY like twice a year and DH will maybe have a beer every now and then but we are extremely conscious about being able to react to an emergency/driving if we need to. I go out and get absolutely sh!tfaced but never around my kids, they have never seen me drunk.

    MM- Yeah I could never imagine bringing my own drinks to a kids party...it just seems a bit tacky.

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    I don't think you need alcohol at a kids party either. We never did as kids, and i find it wierd. But DH's family and some friends are more comfortable with the idea. AT DD's 1st birthday, i didn't want alcohol and similarly organised punch and soft drinks etc but at the last minute DH bought a slab (or 2?) of beer.

    At first i was ****ed off, but it didn't turn out to be a big issue. A few people had one or two beers, but that was about it. There were plenty left over at the end.

    NO ideas on how to let them know other than just saying it, or letting the family gossip person know and hope they spread it.

    ETA- no-one rocked up to the party with alcohol though, that would be very wierd if they did.
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    For the kids parties it's alcohol free...we always have other children (outside the family) here and it's a party for the kids not the adults....
    However we will generally have a family bbq celebration on another day in which case there are drinks....only about 2-3 each, ball games cricket etc and the bbq...the day/afternoon is about the kids not about the adults drinking....I don't mind if they want to have a couple of drinks provided it's just that...once the kids go off to bed (if it ends up running that late) then I don't mind how much anyone drinks provided it stays friendly, doesn't get out of hand and they don't drive anywhere...I see that time as the adult time anytime before that is about the kids

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    I have wine with dinner and occasionally another on the weekend and I'm happy for DS to view responsible drinking. At a kids party....... well..... I'm not against it per se but I just don't understand why

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubbles10 View Post

    NO ideas on how to let them know other than just saying it, or letting the family gossip person know and hope they spread it.
    Hmmm good idea! I might tell my mum that I want them to kind of get the picture and she can drop it in convo one day.

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    Maybe you could have the party in places that it is not ok to drink, like a public park? Some people may still try it on but remind them it is illegal to drink in a public place and Mr Policeman might like to drive by if they do drink
    Or just state that alcohol will not be tolerated and anyone who feels the need to drink will be asked to leave.

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    As a general rule any kind of gathering here turns into a big party. But I have rules here for kids parties, Easter and Christmas. There is to be no drinking before 6pm because those days are for the kids. And no one is to be drunk before the kids are in bed asleep(usually around 7-8) I will admit I tend to have a few more than a couple more than occasionally but my kids have never seen me drunk ever and I dont want them too. And I will not supply the alcohol. Everyone seems to be pretty happy with that arrangement.

    My dd's second birthday party we had at HJ's (oh no shoot me! lol) it was at 2pm my friend bought her husband ... he was DRUNK and stunk of beer .. yeah i was FURIOUS still am 4 years later actually. Really wasnt impressed


 

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