Advice on feeding a fussy 17mnth old???

[AndrewTheEmu]

When DD was little she ate anything (puree's) but when i tried introuducing new finger foods she got very picky. THEN she improved dramatically and ate almost everything her toothless grin could handle

Now shes 17 mnths and for the last month its been "NO", or "cracker", or "yogurt", or "toast". and when i say "no eat your dinner then you can have a,b,c" or "sorry we dont have any a,b,c" (big fat lier ) she screams the house down and still doesnt eat her food.

Ive always been a big believer in "if shes hungry, she'll eat", so when she hasnt eatten her lunch/dinner i dont offer her anything else.

Now shes at an age where she can ask for what she wants, she gets really mad when i dont give it to her. Im tied of having her scream at me. She rarely eats junk. The crackers are baby crackers, the yougurt is natural sugar free yougurt, so its not like she CANT have those things, she just needs to start eatting more fruit, veg and meat.

ive tried every which way of cooking and serving them and she still only has a pick then asks for toast insted. Even yesterday i baked veggies with a drizzle of olive oil and honey to just get her to give it a try and she refused

Dispite what im saying here, i dont make a fuss of it to her, i just say "ok, your all done" get her down and dont offer anything to her next meal time.

Shouldnt this method be working by now??? Ive been doing it for a month! Yesterday I caved for the first time (as shes a little sick atm) shed barely eatten anything all day and at 4pm asked for her baby veggitable crackers, and they proceded to eat half the box i never would have allowed this but theyre made of veggies and she refused her milk, ate 1/4 of her breakfast and then refused every offering of food and water up untill that.

Should i persist with only offering her healthy foods? Im worried with how little shes eatting now (and i dont mean the last few days where she hasnt been well, im refering to the last month) I feel like Im staving her
and she has started loosing weight (not that im too concerned, she was on the 95% percentile from birth to now and even with the weight loss shes still a bit chubby)

HELP (sorry for the ramble)
why wont she just eat nice healthy meals like DH and I???

[AndrewTheEmu]

Self bumping shame.

Surely im not the only one with a picky eatter???

[IhaveYourToaster]

Do you eat with her? my DD, 23 months, will sit on my lap and eat off my plate, even though we have the same thing. Lately if she hasn't touched much I tell her 'hurry up or Mummy will eat it' and she shoves it all in! She used to be great with all her food then went through a fussy period but seems to be more accommodating with her meals these days. May be your DD is just going through a phase?