Going from 2-3? we currently have 2 DD's- 4 years and 16 months and at the end of the year Dh's 14 year old sister will be living with us as well (she is a good kid- have less problems with her then I do my dd1 lol). We have agreed to start ttc number 3, I had the implanon out September 12 and was pregnant 2 weeks later but sadly we lost the baby on October 15.
I still want another one, but I'm worried. Both DD's were surprises, so I didn't really have time to think about how we would cope etc, but with this one we are trying and I have tome to think about all that stuff. After dd1s birth, I had severe PND and my life was hell. We were in a really bad situation at the time which didn't help. When I found out I was pregnant with dd2, we had just got custody of DHs 2 sisters and brother, so we had 4 going om 5 kids all up. I was terrified that I would feel the same with dd2 that I did with dd1, especially with the added stress of the other kids. But it was the complete opposite. I fell in love with her straight away, had no problem bonding and took it all in my stride. It was like I was a diffent person. Having the older kids actually helped as they kept dd1 occupied while I was busy with dd2. We were also in a better position then when dd1 was born.
This time, we are in an even better position, and we will still have a bit of that 'help' from DH's sister. Plus my mum lives 3 houses away and my grandad only a few minutes drive away. Even so, I am still terrified that one more might tip me over the edge? Like I coped so well after dd2 was born, I'm scared that won't happen again. We both really want another one, but I'm just scared and hate having so much time to think.
Even though things were so bad after dd1, the way we lived didnt change a great deal, she just fit in with what we were doing. Same with dd2. We didnt have to miss out on anything socially and she just fit into what we were doing. For those of you who have gone from 2-3, did you find it was the straw that broke the camels back (so to speak), or did you find it even easier to cope? Any advice will be much appreciated!