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    Default Does it really make a difference...

    Going from 2-3? we currently have 2 DD's- 4 years and 16 months and at the end of the year Dh's 14 year old sister will be living with us as well (she is a good kid- have less problems with her then I do my dd1 lol). We have agreed to start ttc number 3, I had the implanon out September 12 and was pregnant 2 weeks later but sadly we lost the baby on October 15.

    I still want another one, but I'm worried. Both DD's were surprises, so I didn't really have time to think about how we would cope etc, but with this one we are trying and I have tome to think about all that stuff. After dd1s birth, I had severe PND and my life was hell. We were in a really bad situation at the time which didn't help. When I found out I was pregnant with dd2, we had just got custody of DHs 2 sisters and brother, so we had 4 going om 5 kids all up. I was terrified that I would feel the same with dd2 that I did with dd1, especially with the added stress of the other kids. But it was the complete opposite. I fell in love with her straight away, had no problem bonding and took it all in my stride. It was like I was a diffent person. Having the older kids actually helped as they kept dd1 occupied while I was busy with dd2. We were also in a better position then when dd1 was born.

    This time, we are in an even better position, and we will still have a bit of that 'help' from DH's sister. Plus my mum lives 3 houses away and my grandad only a few minutes drive away. Even so, I am still terrified that one more might tip me over the edge? Like I coped so well after dd2 was born, I'm scared that won't happen again. We both really want another one, but I'm just scared and hate having so much time to think.


    Even though things were so bad after dd1, the way we lived didnt change a great deal, she just fit in with what we were doing. Same with dd2. We didnt have to miss out on anything socially and she just fit into what we were doing. For those of you who have gone from 2-3, did you find it was the straw that broke the camels back (so to speak), or did you find it even easier to cope? Any advice will be much appreciated!

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    I found all the situation is positive to take a new one.So there is no hesitation for me in case of you to add new guest in my family.This is my say.As this is your family and future you know better then me.

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    For us, having 3 wasn't a big change....it obviously was but we just took it as it came....my last little man was a surprise, I had 3 children under 3! And i was still breastfeeding my second son when my newborn came along....it is hard, but I didn't cope well going from 1 to 2 children...I found that difficult at the time, so maybe because I was expecting it to be difficult, it wasn't that bad!
    Good luck!


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    I found 2-3 was more of an adjustment that going from 3 - 4.

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    I found 2 to 3 was harder to get used to than from 1 to 2. I think it was the going from one kid each parent to having the extra one to juggle. It does get easier though, 3 is so much easier now than when I first had DD3.
    I'm hoping that 3 to 4 is as easy as everyone says.

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    I dont have much to add as I only have 1 baby and worry the same as you about adding a second.

    BUT, I think if you have that wanting for another baby... that feeling is hard to ignore and I think follow that heart and feeling and you know what, you will manage.

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    Thanks everyone. As I said, I coped going from 1-4 overnight and then 4-5 when our DD2 was born. And we will have 14 year old SIL living with us by the time baby number 3 arrives, and she is a great help, even if it's just keeping the others occupied while I tend to the baby. I'm feeling much more relaxed about it now. I do it with every thing though- if I have time to think about it, I start getting myself all freaked out and stuff but if it just happens then I'm fine. And also now I know we won't have the added stress of the wedding I feel much more in control. Thanks for all your advice!


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    I found 1-2 easy, 2-3 was hard! Continuous nonstop work!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    I found 1-2 easy, 2-3 was hard! Continuous nonstop work!
    Hahaha I have that now! Between DD1 (4 years), DD2 (16 months) and DH.... It never ends! But I'm in my elements when things are crazy. Hence why we took on 3 kids ranging from 9 (who also had ADHD), a 11 year old girl and 13 year old girl. And taking on the oldest girl (who is now almost 15) again.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Hokey Pokey View Post
    I found 2-3 was more of an adjustment that going from 3 - 4.
    I completely agree with Hokey Pokey, 2-3 was really hard on me and I was single too, but 3-4 and then onwards, no different at all really
    I see in your signature you are awaiting number three now anyway, Congratulations Lil Miss


 

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