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    Doesn't make you a crap mother.. just a real person with real feelings and real frustrations etc. I'm very much having one of those days myself today. I think it's normal for us to become bored with the mundane ins and outs of life.. I imagine even if I was working an average 9-5 job I'd probably get bored of that at some point too.
    in the words of dory.. just keep swimming..

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    Cass, it doesn't make you a bad mum. I am not really into the stay at home and bake cookies thing either, I would rather be working. But I really think it is the single mum thing that really starts to destroy you. It is incredibly draining to always have no money and be constantly worrying about it, doing everything yourself and jumping through hoops for Centrelink. Everyday feels like groundhog day with no end in sight and that is really depressing.

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    Cassie

    You're definitely not a bad mum, and definitely not alone in feeling like you do.

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    Thanks ladies.

    I am going to be putting my kids in daycare and out of school hours care next year and studying and/or working. I know it will be best for all of us. 7 years in the same "job" is enough already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buttoneska View Post
    hey mate, you know I don't have kids but I just wanted to respond. I have read alot of your posts lately and it breaks my heart.

    You seem really down and flat, and more then in a life is hard and im tired kinda way, like in a im possibly depressed kinda way.

    I wish I could say something to make you feel better and I don't want to hurt your feelings but I think that maybe it could be a good idea to see a dr and look at talking to someone.

    Not just for this stuff right now, but you have history and I think it's holding you back. I don't think your a bad mother at all, but I think you could find joy in your life - in all aspects - which would make being a mum more enjoyable too??

    hugs xo im here if you ever want to talk about anything (we have similar upbrings so I kinda get where you coming from in lots of ways).

    you made big chances leaving G, and maybe the realisation that day to day life is kinda hte same in many ways gets hard to cope with? But there is lots of stuff before G too hun? You know what I mean? You deserve to find peace and happiness
    I was told by a close friend I might have depression, hopefully not but I don't really know a lot about it anyway, I do need to talk to someone though.. So much going on in my life atm.

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    Nope, I hate it.

    I don't enjoy it anymore but I have 5 more years of it until all the kids are at school and then I can finally do something career/study wise. Its hard doing this 'job' when you don't particularly want to but 5 years isn't that long...right? LOL.

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    I dont particularly enjoy it. Ive been a sahm for 7 years also, and its just annoyingly mundane... My kids are hard work and sometimes i wish it wasnt me that has to deal with it all. You're not alone.

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    hi cassie, so happy to see you are planning to work or study next year. start now looking at what courses are available for you or of interest to you. each day will be getting you closer to independence with a personal income, and so much self confidence. good for you, Marie.

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    Thanksyou Marie, at least I will have two in school next year and only one in daycare full time.

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    Being a SAHM is mundane and frustrating. I wouldn't say i love it at all, some days i dream about going off to work just so i can get a break from being stuck at home with two demanding little people. Doesn't mean i don't love me kids or don't enjoy spending with them but it is quite draining when it is all you do.
    When i was part time studying it was the perfect balance for me as i had something else in my life that wasn't child related but also had the flexibility of not working as i know i wouldn't be happy working full time either (while my kids are still so young) It also gave me a sense of direction because it was working towards a qualification that i could hopefully use once the kids were both in school.
    Now that all i do is stay at home mothering i do find myself not really enjoying it like i used to - i'm a homebody, i like to bake and do laundry and all that annoying 'mumsy' stuff and even i don't love being a SAHM! I think it is a very common and normal feeling

    I would just riding it out until next year and with 2 in school and one in daycare it will open up time for you to explore your options for work or study or doing something for you


 

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