What a beautiful bub and beautiful name! Well done!
What a beautiful bub and beautiful name! Well done!
Yay nic you have ur bubba. Gorgeous pic xx
Hey guys!! How is everyone?? Charli is a doll.. Can't stop staring at her little face.. Her daddy is absolutely wrapped up in her and is so so good with her.. We have had a rough couple of days and he has been my rock, right behind me every step of the way..
Had the 3 day blues yesterday which pretty much culminated in a total meltdown.. Hadn't really had sleep since my contractions started on Sunday morning so that totally didn't help.. She has been having some problems latching and was so clingy, wouldn't sleep in her bassinet ir cot or on a bed, anywhere, only on me which was horrible.. My nips have gotten to the point where I can't feed her without being in a lot of pain and last night was it, we decided to put her onto formula as it was the only way I could feed her.. I was so upset, DH called my mum and the neighbour and they came over and helped us out. Mum stayed with us all night and took Charli so we could have some sleep.. And guess what.. She now sleeps in her bassinet (she's asleep now) and both mummy and daddy are a lot less stressed out.. She has also put on 50grams from her birthweigh, which shocked the baby nurse no end!! I really wanted to breastfeed.. She wouldn't have a bar of the nipple shields, I've got a manual pump and can only get the smallest drops out and that smashes my nips even more.. It really took it's toll on me last night, in a way I feel like I've let her down.. But she seems to be doing ok, had no probs with the bottles or taking the formula so I'm happy.. Everyone has been so supportive of my decision, which shocked me a bit, but also made it easier.. I'm going to try and see if I can start again after my nips heal, just have to wait and see how long that'll be.. Sorry for the long post, I've really needed to get it all out.. I take my hat off to all mothers out there who do it for months before giving in.. I just could'nt handle it anymore..
Labour was intense!! My contractions started around 4.30am Sunday morning.. Timed them out every few hours up until they just got unbearable around 8pm.. They hadn't been getting closer but they were getting longer and stronger.. Called the hospital they said to come in and they'd observe me for a bit.. I was sure they would just send us home, but we went anyways.. Just before we did I had a whole bunch of green/brown mucus when I wiped, so we took that in with us.. Got to the hospital around 10.30pm, they set us up and did an examination which I was 1cm dialated.. Contractions still not really regular but getting worse and worse.. We showed them the mucus we had bought in with us, they thought it was meconium so the doc did an ultrasound and it turned out my waters had broken (I never had a gush, just a hell of a lot of mucus that day) and Charli had pooped.. They decided to induce me, and at 4.30am Monday the drip was put in.. Went alright with it for a bit, until they got to the highest level and still not much was happening.. Doc gave approval to go one higher and thats were it went a bit pear shaped.. I asked for gas to ease the pain, my contractions were pretty much bang bang bang, then a break then bang then a break then bang bang bang again.. I got really sick off the gas as I was pretty much using it as air (as the midwife told me to), my contractions were just so irregular.. It caused me and Charli to get distressed so they turned it off to moniter us.. 30 mins later they turned it back on at half strength as we had both settled down, not long after that I felt this urge to poo myself so the middy did another check, I was 9cm dilated!! It was too late for any drugs.. Started pushing at 10.45am, and I just couldn't push her through my pelvis.. Middy suggested I do a few standing as I was getting close to pushing for an hour and she was getting concerned.. The 4 contractions on my feet were awesome, as in the next push her head started coming out.. I think it was 4 pushes to get her head completely out, then a half push to get the cord from around her neck and she was out.. I was in complete shock when they pulled her out as she had told me to stop pushing so she could get the cord, and then she just pulled her out!! She got checked out for meconium in her lugs but she was good. She was literally covered in s**t when she came out!! I was classed as a dry birth as I had lost all my fluid..DH later told me I was super close to having a C-sect as I couldn't push her out and she was starting to get distresed again.. Had a small labial tear and a bit of grazing, ended up with 4 internal stiches, no external tears which I am super happy about!! I'm so proud I did it with naturally, DH was my personal cheerleader, pushing me on when I thought I couldn't take it anymore.. I am so incredibly lucky to have him, I am so proud of him.. I feel so blessed for my little family, I still can't believe she is finally here.. It's been a rough road, but I'm hoping we have turned a corner with everything.. I just want her to be happy and healthy.. I will add a pic on the next post as I can only seem to do it off my phone.. Much love ladies xx
She got these taken at the hospital on Tuesday, less than 24hrs old..
Charli is absolutely beautiful, Nic. You and your hubby should be so proud.
What an insane birthing experience. But congratulations on getting the natural birth you wanted No wonder you were so sore the next day! I'm so glad Charli was OK after all of that. Its amazing how resilient they are hey? It always amazes me how supportive the fathers are, given they spend the previous 9 months saying they're going to feel so useless etc. I truly believe it can strengthen a relationship, and it certainly did for us.
Im glad you finally got some sleep. Babies really do pick up on the stress we emit. Do not in any way feel bad about giving formula. You have to do what you have to do and you gave it one hell of a chance. Some babies just don't latch. But i agree - give your nipples a few days to calm down (paw paw cream is amazing on cracked nipples) and try again. Or maybe try expressing just so she can get some of those amazing antibodies etc from your milk. I tried so hard to BF but I was so sore and stressed and nothing we did worked so I made the decision to express for four weeks. I figured a little bit of breast milk was better than none. It is very time consuming though so even if you just do every second feed. But it's a personal decision that only you and your hubby can make. I'm so glad you were well supported with your decision to bottle feed. I was up against one horrible child health nurse who basically told me i was poisoning my baby and that i should try harder. I actually told her to leave my house as I didn't need someone around me who wasn't 100% supportive of my decision. I told her i was expressing and she still had a go at me. Ummm pretty sure its the same milk?!
Just remember that you have not let her down in ANY way. Your baby needed food and you provided it. Its as simple as that. Besides, DH loves being able to feed Hannah. Its a great bonding experience for them.
I do hope you are recovering physically and enjoying this amazingly special time with your beautiful girl. She really is a little angel
Last edited by pilbarablossom; 11-01-2013 at 18:58.
Nic - wow, I almost cried reading your lovely story. Sounds like the birth was an experience go girl!
She is beautiful & one of my fav names too!
Enjoy every minute & don't worry about the breast feeding, my best friend was the same she is healthy & it's all that matters xxx
Completely understand the need to get it out, that's what we are here for. It's such an intense experience, and it can take some time to process. As for formula feeding, I think there's wayyyy to much pressure related to breastfeeding. I went to an aba class before birth and thought that Liv would just latch right on. It took days and a private lactation consultant before we got anywhere close! You do what you need to, and what works for you xxx
How did your fertility spec appointment go Marttc? Did AF arrive as expected?
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Everything went well
AF arrived early but the timing was perfect. Started injecting again on Tuesday night, still don't like it but cope with it much better this time around! I am due for my scan & BT on Saturday to measure my follicles etc, on Saturday I start my morning injections as well this will continue every day scans & BT will continue every second day until my trigger shot at the end (this matures the eggs before collection) 48 hours later I will go under a general & they will collect my eggs. DH will give a sample & they will inject the sperm into my matured eggs & grow them for (hopefully) 5 days!
Our fertility specialist said if the quality of our embryo's are good & 5 day she wants to transfer 1, if she is not happy with the quality she would like us to consider a double transfer - meaning possibility of twins... Scares me a little!
Looking like Australia weekend will be approx my egg collection, ill keep you girls updated! Thanks for asking
Yay MARTTC I'm glad everything is on track for you.. Ill be keeping everything crossed for you guys.. Twins would be crazy!! Imagine that!! I hope everything goes well, I'll be watching out for updates xx
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