Sorry to hear you're out for this month. I'm still waiting to test.
In answer to your question - yes, and this is the 2nd time.
The first time took over a year, and I ended up seeing a FS and being prescribed Clomid - which worked, and I had DD (almost 18mths ago). It took a long time though, and I'd convinced myself I would never have children.
Now TTC #2. Everyone said that it would be quick this time, but same old story - if not worse, as I am older, and the Clomid (which I'm back on) didn't work at first, but now seems to be doing the trick with a higher dose + other meds. I'm seeing the FS again in Jan, and he wants to move to injections and then if that doesn't work IVF.
So, re staying positive - I don't know! I'm not sure I have, TBH... I start every month positively, but that wears off as I don't O until really late in the cycle, so by then I start thinking I'm not going to O. Then I get positive again when I do, and that lasts a day or 2. Then I get devastated as soon as I get PMT/ periody feeling, and then when AF starts I feel positive again as I feel like it's a new month/ new chance.
So it's a real rollercoaster. To console myself each month I tell myself things like "Well, if I'm not pregnant this month then I'll be able to have some wine at the party next weekend." Or "Well, if I don't get pregnant this month I'm going to book a last minute trip somewhere." But it's not great consolation - more distraction really.
I wish I had some words of wisdom to offer! I can definitely offer lots of these
I just look at how it took us that long for DD and how she is worth it, and that once number 2 comes along he/ she will be worth the heartache now. And then I drink some more wine...