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    It is based on a medical choice. I chose to have a c-section because I have major prolapse of my bowel, bladder and uterus. It causes me to have incontence of my bladder and rarely of my bowel. I know that these things can cause major issues, and some doctors don't understand that.

    I got all of my advice from homebirth midwives, my private ob that I paid to see but didn't have antenatal care with, my Gp etc. When I went to the hospital with all of this information the doctor said "vag birth is fine". I disagreed and it was my choice. I think the doctor is trying to allow you time to think about it and try to talk you out of it, but at the end of the day you have a medical reason for a c-section and you have the choice, so just tell the doctor your choice is a c-section and you want to book it in. you are allowed to request one, so just know that you can have one and stand firm if this is what you know is 100% the best choice for your situation.

    A homebirth midwife put it into perspective for me... "at the end of the day, the doctor gets to get on with his life after your birth no matter what the outcomes are, but you are the one who has to live with the problems it can cause for the rest of your life".

    I just remembered that when I talked to the hospital and even said "I am the one who will live with this, so it is my choice".

    Turns out it was the right choice as I have since been to the expert in Australia in my issues and he was so glad I had a c-section after her saw how bad my problems were already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EntWife View Post
    At least he is going to read up on it for you, its not entirely hopeless tho it might feel like that now. Arm yourself with what information you can find and go into the next appointment as calmly as you can. If after that he still will not budge, and you still really want the c-section, i would take it further.



    Poor you being in such pain
    I am glad he will do some research, and i hope he does found many reports, but the fact he could not back up why he "thinks" it won't cause me any more damage is whats made me so upset. I was shattered that he just assumed. He has not lived through this condition for 15 years and then fell pregnant and had it back in full force.. Its just beyond me. I truly believe every mother has a right to decided how SHE wants to have her baby..

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    Quote Originally Posted by •kristyb• View Post
    At Logan you will see a different doctor at every appointment... Try not to stress out..
    On the requests of my other appts coming up he has writen down that he wants to be the doctor. And said in the room i will be seeing him.

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    Can you or your DP ring up the hospital and speak to one of the administrators there? That way you can explain your situation, what your GP recommends and what you want to do - an elective csection.

    Just because you are public doesnt mean they can force you to have a VB. Thats just crazy!!

    I am going public and even tho I am choosing to VBA2C I have told my OB that if bubs hasnt come by 42 weeks I am having a c/s because I dont want to be induced....and he was completely supportive of that.

    I would definately call tho...as at least you may be able to speak with someone that can be more helpful for you and situation. Sometimes I wonder why men are OBs! They dont have the same equipment as us so how do they know how it feels!!!

    I am so sorry that you are feeling like this now but hopefully with a few phone calls to the right people you should be able to get yourself heard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brandnewbeginnings View Post
    i am not sure that i could request to see a different person as its the public hospital?
    You can always request a different person as a public patient. if at any time you feel uncomfortable with who you are seeing, you have the right to refuse treatment from them and get another person sent to see you. You just can't request to have a certain doctor specifically.

    Exceptions of course are where there is only one person in the field in that hospital and so there is no choice. In a big public hospital though, there will be someone else you can see

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    I have just re-read your posts.

    Do you see a specialist at all? What has your GP based their opinion on in you needing a c-section?

    If the doctor wants to see you in 2 weeks after he has studied it some more... I would actually go and hear what he has to say. He has had a high level of training and would be able to access the right material to find out if there is a reason you need a c-section or not and can weight the risks of major surgery vs your bladder maybe being hurt. There are a lot of things to say that c-section is worse for IC. So maybe this is why he is hesitant and why I ask why your GP is adament you need a c-section?

    I do understand your fears, I have them with my prolapse, but it might also help you to hear what he has to say in two weeks. If you still feel at the end of the appointment that a c-section is for you, just say so.

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    I have no advice re getting the c-section aside from standing your ground and having your specialist write a letter.

    I had a mild case of IC that lasted about 10 months and it was awful, I can only imagine the hell of living with it i for 15 years!

    You have probably tried everything known to man to try and cure or ease symptoms but the Ethical Nutrients Urinary Tract tablets worked wonders for me, immediately calmed a flair up and I think what healed my bladder was staying away from all caffeine products for a few months. I eat chocolate now but still only drink decaf coffee just in case.

    I really feel for you

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    Thankyou all so much for the advice in times like these. I really appreciate it.

    Can the hospital MAKE me have a vaginal birth? Even though i have a medical condition? Like can they actually make me have a vaginal birth and decline my request for a C section??

    I am currently doing research now so i can take all of this in to show him that yes a vaginal birth can cause you damage to your bladder. And could most certainly cause me more damage seeing as i already have a weak, scarred, and red raw bladder.

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    Um you have to be with a major health fund for a certain amount of time before you can birth in a Private hospital. I would definitely find another opinion! Try another hospital that is ridiculous! I would also make a complaint directly! Screw him love, you put your foot down, nobody knows your body better than you! But it is too late to get Private insurance now, way too late. Sorry honey, best of luck though!

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    Everybody has the right to a second opinion, and you make sure you tell that doctor you want another opinion, and keep going until you get a doctor who agrees. This Ob doesn't know what he's talking about! Once again best of luck! xxx


 

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