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  • I would highly encourage my child to do an organised sport.

    26 63.41%
  • I do not think organised sport is very important.

    3 7.32%
  • I would highly encourage my child to do music.

    21 51.22%
  • I do not think organised music is very important for my child.

    4 9.76%
  • I would highly encourage my child to learn a language

    14 34.15%
  • I do not think learning a language is very important for my child.

    6 14.63%
  • I would highly encourage my child to do dance.

    9 21.95%
  • I do not think dance classes are important for my child.

    8 19.51%
  • I would highly encourage my child to do tutoring out of school.

    8 19.51%
  • I do not think tutoring out of school is very important for my child.

    7 17.07%
  • I would highly encourage my child to do community services.

    15 36.59%
  • I do not think community service is very important for my child.

    6 14.63%
  • I think schools provide enough activities.

    6 14.63%
  • I don’t believe in structured activities.

    2 4.88%
  • Other

    9 21.95%
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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    Interesting timing, there was an article in the paper this morning saying that structured activities are/can be (can't remember exactly) WORSE for kid's development and imaginative play than tv.
    So that's what is wrong with me! I had structured everything all my schooling life after school every day, but also hours on hours of free play in a massive house/yard. TV was hardly allowed. We didn't have big travel times for activities though which would be different in Melbourne as most of the time would be taken up by driving to and from the activities!

    My inlaws were made to do things for a year. I don't know.. i don't think it is long enough. They all say "oh I played the flute, I played this" but they all quit after a year... they can't play a note and aren't musically trained so I think they may as well have saved their time and money! I also do not think that schools provide the same level of languages and music and sport that out of school places do, so I don't personally think they compare unless it is a provate school that dedicates itself to that sort of after school thing.

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    I want to get DD into some sort of music... and if she enjoys it then she can continue on in years to come. Much better to learn as a kid while she's got free time and doesn't have to pay for it herself. lol. Piano is probably MY choice... but I'll see what she's interested in.

    If she wants to play a sport or do dancing or whatever, then if I can afford to, I"ll support her, but I won't push her into anything. She's only 6 now so keen to do anything, so I'm considering putting her into dance or soccer next year. Something for fun mostly. She can quit when she wants (unless I pay per term... then she can quit once the term is over... LOL!).

    If she NEEDS tutoring, then she'll get tutoring. I don't see hte point in it 'just because' though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    You let them quit!! DP has never forgiven his parents for pushing him to learn an instrument. It was their love, not his and he hated it.

    If they keep changing their mind you make them stick to one thing (of their choosing), but not because you value it, but because they have indicated that they do.
    mmm see.. I hear so many stories like this, but I never felt like this and I have friends from music who feel the same as me now as adults. Our parents made us each do instruments and I mean.. aged 6 til teens every day every year. We didn't always like it and at times I campaigned to quit! However we all chose to do school instruments and be in the school bands as well by choice. Now as an adult I only value what I can do, especially now I know how uncommon it is for people to be about to play instruments. I see friends who have more opportunities in certain things becasue they can play music.

    Maybe it was the way my parents did it? My Dad used to say he wished he could play and proud he was yadda yadda. My Mum used to remind us of all the benefits and help us practice/buy us things to help us practice better like tuners, fun music pieces etc. They didn't "force" us.

    It was the same with sport, Dad felt it was very important and we all did at least 2 all the time. Now that I am a fat sahm I relish the old glory days hahaha.

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    Haven't read the poll yet I'm on my phone.

    I forced my children to swim because we spend heaps of time at the pools and beach in Summer and want them to be confident in water.
    I forced them to do Karate because they need to be able to protect themselves.

    I let them choose any other activity they wanted, DD1 does dancing, we chose a dance class that they don't dress up or make up and DD2 netball

    Both girls understand why they have to learn swimming and karate.

    Damn auto correct changing my spelling!!
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    I want my kids to play sport, music, speak a second language and dance, because I do/did all of that and is has enriched my life and continues to.

    We already speak in two languages in the house, DS is learning ball skills, DS loves to sing, he plays a little drum we bought him and he and I dance together all the time, he loves it.

    Obviously this is unstructured, but once he's old enough I will be supporting him to do these activities structured.

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    When i grew up, my mother's only two stipulations were - i had to do a 'sport/physical activity' and i had to learn an instrument.
    She didn't care what and i was given free reign to add whatever i wanted to that list - but my sibling and i had to fulfil those two basic requirements..

    I did several types of dance over the years (which i loved - and definitely encourage the kids to do), tai-kwan-do, etc
    and piano, voice, and recorder

    and language was a given because we're a bilingual household [but pushed as an extra-curricular activity unless they're interested in it]

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    Start of each year I sit down with my girls and ask them to pick something they would like to do for the year. This year it is Karate and other years it was dancing.

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    Other. We are going to let DS pick. I dont want to force him to do anything he doesnt want to.But we will enroll him into Soccer as there are fields near us, if he doesnt like it we wont push him. Id also encourage him to do music, he loves it already and DP plays the guitar.

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    I went to guides and played hockey my sisters and brother did the same 1 sport and scouts/guides. they were also in surf club. I didnt as Im a very pale red head = no sun. I will encourage my girls to do what interests them but will be starting with surf club as I believe they should at least learn about surf skills living in a coastal town

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    I did Guides as a kid, exposed to so much in a non-competitive environment. It allowed for developing strengths (such as drawing/painting, sewing, spruiking, safety, leading, triathlon, babysitting, cake making) and finding out what I wasn't good at (storms, crochet, growing plants, cooking roasts...)

    without pressure.

    Guides/Scouts will be on the agenda for my kids. Plus they get to do awesome things like abseiling, canoeing, rockclimbing...

    I'm also big on getting swimming under their belts - but for survival not compeition.

    Hubby's keen to teach them music, he's very musical. He got very far with his music in primary and high school and made it to 1st chair of all his school orchestras growing up.

    After that, I honestly don't care what they chose to do. Sport, dance...


    And finally as for language, I'm hoping to immerse them! The plan is hubby and I will take sabatical for a year and teach english overseas when they're in kindergarden/primary school and immerse them in that language.



    at least that's the plan.... whether or not that happens is all up to what we're blessed with...


 

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