I'll probably get lynched for saying this, but I don't think the midwives were laughing at her pain as such. Working in healthcare, it's easy to get desensitized to the things that you see, and when you DO find the things you see distressing or frustrating, quite often humor is the way of dealing with it. I think you'd be hard pressed to find a nurse or midwife who hasn't had a bit of a stress relieving giggle during or after a 12 hour nightshift with a particularly challenging patient (or laboring woman). It's certainly not a matter of laughing at someone in pain though if you get what I mean?
Ikwym Lateralus, but I had a bossy midwife who laughed with my DP and it was the worst feeling ever for me. It hurt me to the core while I was so vulnerable yet seeing people around me laughing and having a great time. I can't help but see it from the labouring woman's POV and I never want it again. Ever. I was humiliated.
I can't watch shows like this, they make me far too angry and sad for the birthing women
But not everyone screams during labour, i'm a "silent birther" with the except of a few moans here and there if a contraction catches me off guard. I tend to think that when a woman is screaming, especially if it's more high pitched and 'throaty' rather than deep and guttural, that she's tensing up in fear of the pain, rather than trying to relax and go with it, IYKWIM?
I'm going to watch some homebirth videos tonight. They are so, so, so much lovelier to watch I am really freaked out by last nights episode - not so much the pain but the way people are treated in hospital. Not watching any more
She sounded so frightened and out of control, the poor woman
When you're in labour and you're in pain, you're going to do whatever it takes to get through it. Women should be encouraged to yell, scream, swear, do whatever feels natural to them. Just read Juju Sundin's Birth Skills with Sarah Murodch. I used to think these women were being "over the top" but let me tell you, when I was in labour, I screamed the roof down. I didn't give a **** & if anybody told me to be quiet, I would have punched them square in the nose. It helped me get through my labour. It's a way of letting the pain out. You're releasing. Keeping quiet & grinding your teeth doesn't help.
Well it does to some women... It's whatever works for each woman.
Very true Natty, although she looked absolutely terrified the poor thing
Noone really tried to calm her down they all kind of rolled their eyes and looked on as if to say "Someone shut this woman up!!!!"
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