ok ladies i need some advice on what i know will be a touchy subject for my SIL. My brother and SIL have been together for almost 7 years, they got married mid 2009 and i suspect have been trying for a baby since then, so about 2 years, my SIL is a very large girl (approx size 24) but shows long term desier to exercise or eat healthy. At first i didn't know at all until i told them about my pregnancy, my brother was very interested to hear how long it took and what we tried and sounded very disappointed that it only took us the one try, so i asked him if they have been trying but he only said that they arn't trying but haven't been not trying either since the wedding. SIL is a lovely girl, i do feel bad that anyone who meets her would agree that she is a great person but always will say something about her weight. She won't eat fruit, she will eat some veggies but most of her diet would be crumbed lamb shanks, sausages, pasta, potato bake, cakes & slices etc. when she does decide that she will exercise, it doesn't last very long, they got a crosstrainer but it wouldn't of been used for a month before it became a clothes airer.
I feel really bad for them, as she has said something a few times about wanting a child but i don't know what to say without offending her as i do believe that losing some weight will help. i'm not expecting her to become a size 14 but even 20kg may be enough to help her fall pregnant and also pull her back from GD or worse.