My Sister's wedding...

[DaisyVB]

I would be harsh and say, "If you plan on having guests at your wedding, either you pay for all their airfares, accom, food etc or be considerate of how much they're spending." My SiL was exactly the same with her wedding. Some people just expect people to fork out their entire life savings to come to their wedding.

If she refuses to let up, book the worse hens night ever where it's dirt cheap and will cost no more than $20 AUD each. If she doesn't like it at least you can say you've never been to Thailand and someone said the place was AMAZING! How were you to know?

[Mrs E]

This thread reminds me why I got married as a surprise at our engagement party. I'd been bridesmaid to two bridezillas before and it almost made me hate traditional weddings. I had no bridesmaids, no flowers, no fancy cake and no hens night. It was one of the best nights of my life

I feel for you definitely stick to your guns about your daughter. I can't believe some of her demands. Is she marrying into money?

[Goblin Queen]

Your sister is nuts. I can tell by your replies and what I know of you that you seem to really care about your sister which is why you'll end up caving to most (not all since your daughter still comes first!) of her unreasonable demands. That's what makes it so unfair of her to ask them of you.

That being said, it wasn't until the day after my wedding that I turned to my husband and said "I was a total Bridezilla, wasn't I?" and he said "yeah, I didn't want to say anything!". Despite the fact that in the lead up to the wedding, I insisted several times that I wasn't a Bridezilla, I didn't realise it until after that stress had all left me lol! So maybe cut her a bit of slack, she probably thinks she's being totally reasonable...I know I did!

[bumMum]

Ohhh shoopuf you think just like me!!!!!

I am not into this whole...its my wedding, I will do what I want!

Most of her friends live in sydney and all his family live in ireland.

Nightmare.
there are 120 invited..nothing is covered..
Not the boat cruise or any food other than the wedding reception, and even then its buy your own drinks.

The dress she has chosen for the bridesmaids, ( and there are 6 of us) is $600 and she is willing to put $50 in.
but we have to go find the dress in a shop here and organise it all ourselves.

She knows what she wants but she is not willing to do anything to organise it.
just says.I want this that and the other and now go get it.

If I could I would just resign as bridesmaid and just be a guest but this would send her in to a spin. We don't have much family and I am the only family she has, going. Apart from my stepdad..who some might know the story behind..well she thought it might be good to sit us next to each other so we could work on our differences.....


yep I am a bitter old cow huh? lol

oh my god she sounds like a major bridezilla.


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[bumMum]

This thread reminds me why I got married as a surprise at our engagement party. I'd been bridesmaid to two bridezillas before and it almost made me hate traditional weddings. I had no bridesmaids, no flowers, no fancy cake and no hens night. It was one of the best nights of my life

I feel for you definitely stick to your guns about your daughter. I can't believe some of her demands. Is she marrying into money?

You would think if she was marrying into money she would put in some money for the six hundred dollar bridesmaid dresses huh? I can't believe how some women turn into such princesses on their wedding it drives me crazy. And they expect that suddenly people have all this money to accomodate their demands also. Just recently went through this with a friend and when a few people had to say "sorry I really can't afford that" she chucked a tanty


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[starflame]

I feel your pain... in a way
My brother is getting married in Fiji at the start of june next year.

My godmother got married in Fiji last year. Her and her (abusive) husband have split in the last couple of months and she has just recently found out off of a lawyer that their marraige isnt valid in Australia because they got married in Fiji!! Haha turns out well for her because now she doesnt have to go through divorce and whatnot.

OP - I definitely think your sister is being OTT. I think that she is expecting way too much of people $$ wise. I personally wouldnt go to a destination wedding due to funds (doesnt matter who was getting married) and I think your sister should be prepared for people pulling out for that very reason. I hope it all works out and you dont stress too much over it all

[jbish]

What is it with sisters and weddings! My sis made me (and my sis and two neices) go out and buy $500 dresses, then cancelled the wedding, put the wedding back on and turned around and said "i don't want bridesmaides now". So we are all stuck with $500 dresses with no money back and no where to wear them. I told my other sis we should just wear them to the wedding. Ppl would be like "are you bridesmaides" and we could say "no we just like to match outfits".

But i think in your situation your sister is being unreasonable! Seriously, there is a thin line between "its my wedding" and "I'm being selfish". Tell her to organise her own hens night, I wouldn't be doing it if she was acting like that. But on the flip side, I totally get not wanting to rock the boat and fight with your sis, sucks doesn't it!

[Goblin Queen]

What is it with sisters and weddings! My sis made me (and my sis and two neices) go out and buy $500 dresses, then cancelled the wedding, put the wedding back on and turned around and said "i don't want bridesmaides now". So we are all stuck with $500 dresses with no money back and no where to wear them. I told my other sis we should just wear them to the wedding. Ppl would be like "are you bridesmaides" and we could say "no we just like to match outfits".

Seriously...do it!!!!!