Not a bridesmaid anymore :(

**monnie24** · 14-09-2011 15:29

I would be upset!!

I would really be telling her how upset you feel, seriously cutting you out of the wedding completely?

**superhero99** · 15-09-2011 22:59

Personally I think she is doing you a favour. I was matron of honour on the weekend and 37 weeks pregnant with my second. I would have enjoyed the wedding alot more as a regular guest. The day was exhausting. I couldn't dance. Couldn't sit for long at the bridal table. I struggled all day long and felt pretty miserable to tell you the truth. I still had a toddler to look after and had to try and look happy and be sociable. It's your sisters special day and she probably doesn't want to risk anything going wrong or "happening" on her special day. I would not say anything to her but just respect her wishes. Trsut me you will enjoy her wedding alot more being heavily pregnant and on the sidelines.

**Uh-Oh** · 16-09-2011 17:24

My best friend did this to me last year, I was still a part of the ceremony ( I read a lovely reading) and it actually made it more special as they had the
celebrant say a little spiel about me and our friendship before I started, it was very touching!!

To be honest, I was 33 weeks pregnant, by the end of the day I was knackered! I was amoung one of the first to leave I was so tired and I don’t think as a bridesmaid I would of felt like I could of actually done that! Ask if you can get some special pics of just you and her done.

I completely understand why you are upset, I was inconsolable for a day or so, I don’t think shes doing it to be nasty theres some looking out for you, and wanting to make sure her day goes to plan aswell.

**Eleven Eleven** · 16-09-2011 18:03

I would be upset, but i think she is thinking of you. Like others have said they were SO tired after being BM for the day.

I know a girl who had her sister as BM and she didn't want to ask her to step down and the sister was adamant she was going to make it to be her BM.
She had the baby on the day of the wedding and and my friend was BM down, but she went to see her sister and just born baby in between the wedding and reception. (she called at about 7am on the day and said she had gone into labour)

Maybe talk to her about it and see how she feels but i think you might be glad on the day you can just be a guest with a reading.

**LilMuffin** · 17-09-2011 11:04

Awww you poor thing you are probably most upset because you and your sister are so close. My older sister is my best friend and I would have been gutted if she didn't have me as maid of honor as I had her. My sister was 12 weeks pregnant at my wedding and she just started to pop out a few weeks before my wedding so we altered her dress. Funny thing was I had to alter my dress too because I was starting to put on weight too

. I wasn't pregnant by the way. My point is it is different having a bridemaid who is just early pregnant and someone much further along. I know that If I were a BM at someones wedding when I was pregnant with DD I would be the one pulling out because i was so big with her i couldn't even tie my shoelaces let alone think about wearing heels. I think some the other ladies are right you would be exhausted just as a guest let alone a BM. Having said that if my sister was due the day of my wedding i still would have had her as MOH but if she chose to pull out I would have understood. Maybe she is doing you a favour and I know it hurts but she loves you just as you clearly love her and i hope you can work it out. My advice is so mixed because I see others points but I see how hurt you are too.

Chin up I hpe you can work something out.