I've been following your journey for a while now on this thread and it has always given me hope that I do have another option should IVF not work for my DH and I.
After 3 cycles of IVF and a very recent 0 egg count at EPU I'm leaning more and more towards wanting to do donor eggs in South Africa.
I'm currently 40 and feel that I would like to be a mother sooner rather than later. My life feels in constant limbo at the moment of waiting for the next IVF cycle, and for a while not leaving a job I'm totally over 'just in case this cycle is the lucky cycle...' - then I do apply for a new job because 'life must go on' and I'm stressed that I might get it and how will I explain all the time off needed for IVF - how will I cope in a new job with all the stressors involved with IVF? It seems like this constant roller coaster.
After this last ultra failed attempt - I honestly would just rather save up our money and go the donor route. But I'm not entirely sure my DH is on board. I've mentioned the donor option to him a couple of times months ago and he's been very hesitant and reluctant to talk about it. He's ok to keep trying with IVF even though it is stretching us somewhat financially - and then says 'well maybe we aren't supposed to have kids and we should just accept that'. This breaks my heart.
I guess my question to you all is - was your Dp on board with the idea of overseas donors from the get go or did it take them a while to come around to the idea? And how did you handle it. I find it is constantly on my mind and I want to talk about it but at the same time I don't want to push him. It's making me really unhappy at the moment.
Any advice would be appreciated.