mum4nay, I had forgotten how tired I was early in the piece with the last pregnancy....DH reminded me this morning, so you are right about an early pregnancy thing.... and hopefully a strong one. Your DH sounds as frustrating as mine. He won't let me do anything without him giving his stamp of approval which requires oodles of research and analysis (analysis paralysis I call it) and it normally takes about 2 years because he's such a perfectionist and also very busy with work. I hope your DH is forced to take that leave and switch off to work and switch "on" to house duties. Your mum sounds like she's just not thinking, well certainly not thinking of you..... maybe she needs a little reminder of how much you have on your plate and the impact her chopping and changing has on you and your family. Hang in there.... as you say, next year will be a much better year.... and it's not that far away.
JFB, sounds like your DH has hat it pretty good. I hope he comes to the party and helps out a bit more.
Sonja, you have such a sensible and practical approach to things. You should be very proud of yourself to have managed everything so well. I had thought the same with respect to the age gap... that at least A will be a little way of the terrible 2s, just hope she will be walking reasonably well so I am not having to always pick up 2 little ones. Could be tricky with a c-section scar. Sadly, much as I'd like to go natural birth, after having to go c-section first time, I don't think I want to risk going natural second. I know you can, but I would be terrified of potential problems. As for that bottle of wine chilling in the fridge for the end of the day - another of your very sensible approaches , I was actually having guilty thoughts of giving breast feeding away at 6months so I could have the occasional soak when required... wine soak that is.
Kismet, I am a little nervous thinking about what might eventuate when A starts teething as it is a bit of unknown territory for us at the moment. She is such a happy contented thing she rarely cries, so I'm not sure what teeting is going to do to her. I have an amber necklace on order in preparation, but I'm sure that won't be a huge healing salve, if any? It will be interesting to see how I juggle both babies... all going well . I was thinking I might investigate an Au Pair to help the first month, but not sure about having someone else living in the house and I'm pretty confident DH will want to take leave to be at home with me (an make more mess for me to clean - Grrrrrr). Thankfully I have a cleaner come fortnightly now, so that's a big help.
Blondekelli, I meant to compliment you on your DH couch potato strategy . I haven't been game enough to do that, but I do leave the room as soon as DH comes in to greet little one. I don't ask him to look after her I just make a run for it and dive into the shower or start on a erand around the house that I need to do but can't whilst supervising A.
Nessie, how are you going. When's that lovely holiday happening again?