Hi Pearl Hobbes,
Just read your post, so sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time at the moment. I'm new to this whole donor egg idea as well but from my understanding if you decide to go down that path it means that there is no rush so that you can perhaps take a breather from all of this baby stuff, maybe that would be a good idea for both of you at the moment. I generally go to the gym to get my frustrations out, I do yoga/pilates/tai chi combined classes at the gym and they help me to loosen up and relax, it's amazing and I'm talking a cheapie but good gym at $15 a week. I go to Genesis.
I see that you have done some research into finding donors which is really good but DH is feeling a bit run down by everything. I have an idea which I'd like to put forward, I in fact have been thinking about trying this for myself. Would you mind if I sent you a personal message (I think that's how it works here, you can send a one on one message)?
Meantime, try to relax and take it easy. I'm trying to keep positive myself, always thinking that there is a solution.
Have a great weekend, everyone.