would they get the same style of upbringing?
For example would your DP ensure they had good nutrition, ate lots of fruit and vegetables, drank enough water, avoided too much junk food.
Would your DP make sure they had a secure and supportive routine, got enough sleep, their developmental and emotional needs were met.
Would your DP consider the consequences of parenting choices - such as methods of discipline, schooling choices etc.
Would your DP be as aware of instilling concepts like morals and ethics, independent thinking, consequence of actions and decisions, focus etc?
Would your DP give them the same level of focus and attention as you do, listen to their questions, nurture them as much?
I'm curious because DH is an *awesome* Dad, he and DS adore eachother but I can quite honestly say the parenting is my rhelm that he has a support role in. We're both fine with this arrangement, and I am happily a SAHM who plans to homeschool our kids. DH loves the way I'm raising DS and plan to raise DS2, we discuss parenting a lot and he has imput in all choices (when he wants to, he generally just agrees with whatever I say), he plays with DS when he's home and takes good care of him but any of the practicalities of parenting are squarely mine. If I wasn't doing them I can say almost certainly that DS and belly bub (DS2) would have a *completely* different style of upbringing, even though DH adores the way I'm doing things he would not put the energy into doing things the same way if it were left up to him.
How about in your house? If left to their own devices entirely would your DP raise your kids the same way? Curious!
(Note: This thread is in no way intended to insult, put down, minimize the role of or anything else to fathers or partners. It's just out of interest how the parenting works in your family )