Damned if we damned if we dont!!

[daisymoo]

This is really just a vent...

From C.sections to Vaginal births,breast or bottle,vax'ed or not vax'ed..
Do we as mothers ever get to stop feeling like we have to explain to the world and justify why we do what we do!!???

Wouldnt it be nice to sit back with a cuppa and laugh about our lack of sleep,our mountains of washing,our terrible twos..etc...All those things that we ALL go through,no matter how we birthed,feed or vax'd our kids!!

Ok,vent over...LOL....

Hugs to all you special mummys out there!

[Nef]

Well said

[sydneychick]

Totally ESP when friends drop round and u say with a sheepish smile the hse is a mess they truly don't mind. Good mates don't judge.

[Annabella]

I don't feel like i have to explain myself to anyone. I get weird looks for my choices but am secure in them so I don't care. Took Me a while to get here tho.

[halloweendee]

here here!!
what infuriates me most is that it is us, women, judging other women.
and then we put so much pressure on ourselves in addition to that.

[KBaby]

we are woman, we are human and we judge.
wether you can handle judgement, or accept judgment or have the strength to tell ppl who PUSH their judgements on them to Eff off..

I am all of the above....

[Guest1234]

I don't feel like i have to explain myself to anyone. I get weird looks for my choices but am secure in them so I don't care. Took Me a while to get here tho.

Absolutely! If YOU are happy with the choices YOU make, then what would it matter what others think?

[bluerhapsody]

I hear ya! DS isn't even here yet and people are judging me for my decisions in advance!!

"Are you planning on BFing? Do you know how BAD it is for your child if you don't BF!?!?!?!?!"

"You're SERIOUSLY planning on going back to study for 2-days per week when DS is 4months old? Why don't you spend your time focusing on your baby!?!?!"

"You want to go back to the gym when your child is only 6-weeks? Why don't you stop being so selfish and focusing on your body and start focusing on the child who needs you?"

(I love how people instantly assume that this one is about looks-- I suffer from major depression and often exercise is ALL that helps lift my mood)

The list of critical crap people have said could go on forever...

I wish they would p*** off and mind their own business! It's so easy to make judgments... I wish I could force some of these people to walk a mile in my shoes and THEN criticize... so often the ones who criticize are the ones who are imperfect parents (or not parents at all!!!) themselves!!!

[Cheerilee]

So very true.

If you can at the end of the day be happy that the choice you made was the right one for the moment and you are content with that, then it was right. Even if it was a choice you aren't happy with, it is part of what makes you the way you are (or parent the way you parent) today.

http://www.newagemultimedia.com/firebrace/mirror.html

If people want to judge nothing you can do can stop them, but if you are happy in your choices then it won't hurt so much.

[Guest1234]

so often the ones who criticize are the ones who are imperfect parents (or not parents at all!!!) themselves!!!

Not really. There is no such thing as a perfect parent, and the only imperfect parent would be the ones that abuse or kill their child/ren.