hi roopee, I can relate to all of this, but I did have 10 years of being a SAHM. I suppose I kept busy with school canteen, and other stuff, but I did enjoy the "freedom" of making my own plans for the day. I dont recall ever feeling so bored, but I understand the need for adult conversation, and I did this without any internet. Marie.
Im not a full SAHM and I feel your pain and I only have 1 . When DS has his friends over they trash my house. Im forever saying no, we dont take toys outside, you need to pack up this toy before you start another game. What gets me is how fussy some kids our. Gave them an apple " I dont eat the skin, I dont eat crust, I dont eat brown bread, I only drink apple juice wtf!!! I dont do this for my child, im not doing it for you. Then i feel bad that there friends are not having a good time as im not catering to there normal needs. I used to wait till dh would get home so I could have a shower in peace, then he would call me grumpy if he came into bathroom to "talk" and I would be "I just want 5 minutes by myself, get out!!!"
Oh Roopee, I just wanna hug you!! I agree with everything you said.
I don't do this SAHM gig because I want to, or because I think its nice to be home with your kids while they are young...I'm here because its better for us financially when I am home providing free daycare so DH can work. I get the house perfectly clean every single day, dinner is made every single night, the kids are dressed and clean and happy but I do all of this through gritted teeth. I love my babies but I don't love doing everything all day, every day and never having a break. Once a fortnight I get to leave the kids with DH and go food shopping...thats my break!!
I have been given so much sh!t for being a "lazy, bludging SAHM" by someone who is lucky enough to be able to palm their kids off to a relative so they can work and follow their dreams well f***ing lucky you! Must be nice to have that opportunity! Just because I made the choice to have kids, doesn't mean I have to love every single aspect of it and when you try doing it 24/7 for years without having to hand them over every few days to recoup THEN you come back and tell me Im a lazy bludger.
"I just want 5 minutes by myself, get out!!!" hahahahaha I can relate! Totally! I swear mine follows me with the baby. Helllllllo if I wanted to be in the same room as you I would be! Instead I'm taking advantage of the fact that someone else can occupy her for a bit. I've taken to bellowing "I just want 5 minutes to MYSELF". He gets the hint. Probably better than yelling "P*SS OFF", which is what I feel like doing. And my bub is only 7 months old. There is NO WAY I would last 10 years. I'd go
I really don't have the patience for it. I'd rather go to work, much as I'm not a fan of my current job, but at least I get a lunch break there.
Ah well OP, at least your youngest is approaching school age, so it will end eventually!! At least during school term. Then there's school holidays.... ugh why did we have kids again?!
"lazy, bludging SAHM" - ah hem lemonhead, anyone who said something so stupid has obviously NEVER TRIED IT. Tell them to shut their cake hole!! Did they even take maternity leave? Oh if only it was all magazines and coffee breaks. Wouldn't that be nice? If only I had a housekeeper and a nanny. Oh wait, that's ME.
Just on the shower thing. They all now know NOT to bother me while I am in the shower unless someone is on fire, bleeding profusely or dead. For the most part they adhere to those rules
Funny thing is though? On the VERY rare occasions DH and I are home alone?If I go to have a shower, he tries to come in too? And gets offended because I yell at him to get out! Just coz the kids are not here doesn't mean I am raring to go for it in the shower yanno? I still want my god damn peace! And god forbid, if he asks if i'm 'keen' and I say...nah not really, mayne later, I'm just gunna vege for a bit' ...well you'd think I'd have asked him to go chop an inch off 'it'.
I love this thread, i relate so much to everything said
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