I have a 9 yo son who suffers from ADHD, he is in year 4 at school and he has told us on Friday about what has been happening to him at school..
Now he does have problems being focused in class, and can get very disruptive at times, we do not have him on any medications as we are not comfortable with the idea, he was diagnosed when he was 5 years old.
Basically it all started a week and a half ago, After school he told me that a boy in his year had called him a F@ggot, and he punched him, now in no way did I condone him hitting the boy, but we have gay family members and he understands that using words like that are unnacceptable, he got angry and hit the other boy. I spoke to his teacher and explained this to her, and told her that he should not of reacted that way at all, she told me he would be excluded from lunch time play for 1 day and that she would also talk to the other boys parents about using such vulgar and derogatory terms at school.
Anyway on Friday my son tells me that on Monday, the assistant principal came to the classroom and has decided that due to him misbehaving or being disruptive, each day before lunch, my son must stand up in front of his classmates and ask them if he is able to play at lunch, they then have a show of hands who thinks he should play, needless to say, every day last week he spent his lunch time in the library alone, but then told to have a run to get his energy out before class started back.
I am not against him being punished or missing out if he is being naughty at school, and his teacher is very understanding of his condition, but I am furious and frustrated and upset that this is being done to him, luckily he is a very strong boy and he says he is ok with it, but really? I think it is a horrible thing to do to any child, and especially the fact that he has ADHD, I find it totally wrong to do this to him.
I've been having a look at the board of education site and also the catholic school board site, he goes to a catholic school,
and from what I can gather, it is almost a breach of services under the disability act at schools, any child with a behavioural or learning problem comes under this act. What makes it worse to me is that its more of a teacher initiating this humiliation than other children..
We are calling the principal tomorrow to try and find out what is going on, but I am fed up with this school and am seriously considering looking into making a formal complaint
I was just hoping for some support or ideas on what I can do about this, or maybe someone has been in a somewhat similar situation?
I apologize for such a long post too!!