Hi Trying To Get By, I've been meaning to respond to your post for a long time now. I knew my response would be a long and tricky one hence my procrastination!
I have had three IVF cycles with my eggs.
IVF #1 - most embies were fragmented on day three. None made it to day five.
IVF#2 - most embies were fragmented on day three. One made it to day five but was only showing signs of becoming a blast. It didn't stick.
IVF#3 - Only one egg fertilised, we opted for a day two transfer. It didn't stick.
We are with Genea and see Simone Campbell. She advised us to start thinking about donor eggs after our first cycle. Initially I was upset. I am now so grateful for her honesty. So many ladies continue to try with their own eggs - for years. My husband and I decided that we didn't want to stay on the infertility road for long. After our second failed attempt we decided to have a break. I took a lot of different supplements and had acupuncture. I think we both knew that IVF #3 wouldn't work but it was a psychological thing for us - we wanted to know that we had done everything we could have to conceive a biological child.
I don't think that there has been much research into how to increase egg quality - I get the feeling that it can't be increased. Simone allowed us to try what we wanted. I wouldn't say that she encouraged us to better our egg quality as I think she knew that it just wouldn't happen. She was always honest with us. She told me that we were dealing with significantly bad eggs. It hurt, but I needed to hear it. Part of her job was (and still is) to manage my expectations.
I found out I was pregant last week - with donor eggs from my SIL. If Simone hadn't of been upfront with us then we would still be trying with our own eggs and who knows how long it would have taken us to fall pregnant - if at all.
Again, I am so grateful for her honesty.