Parents complicity in sexualisation of children

**twotrunks** · 11-07-2011 20:18

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/8596...-children.html

This is a bit of a pet issue of mine, and I think this article makes great points. Worth a think about anyway

**sunnyflower** · 11-07-2011 20:21

I agree with this .I HATE to see young girls in skimpy adult clothes and young kids on fb.I now someone who was allowed on it age 7.My ds always asks can he go on fb...errr a big fat no.

**sahm** · 11-07-2011 20:51

Interesting article. I agree with it, we have a not quite 3 year old boy at playgroup who watches horror movies and his mum just mentions it like it's nothing, 'oh, J was just nightmare on elm st'. It leaves me gobsmacked. I was upset when it turned out Cars 2 had shooting and explosions.

**Californication** · 11-07-2011 21:55

I hate seeing young girls in "sexy" clothing. If I have a daughter, she is going to hate me because I will be the Mum that says "you can't wear that".

My kids won't be on FB until I think they are old enough. Maybe when they start high school. Maybe later. They won't have a mobile until they are in their mid teens and I will be dressing them as children, not mini-adults! No 6 year old needs a bra.

They will watch age appropriate movies/TV etc and won't be playing violent games.

I hope they won't hate me too much, but I just want them to be kids while they are kids.

**WorkingClassMum** · 11-07-2011 23:06

Of course many parents are complicit in the sexualisation and adultification of their children.

There are even parents on here who happily let their kids watch tv and movies and play video games with M ratings and more, and what's more they happily post that they do this and defend their actions by deriding anyone who questions their actions.

My children will not be having a FB account until they can legally sign the contract to do so

My Dd can have a bra. once she has something to put into a bra.

**Pigeonmum** · 11-07-2011 23:45

One of my pet hates too, so I won't rant too much LOL coz you're all probably thinking or have said it!! And I totally agree!!

I see so many Parents these days who treat their children like accessories or have kids for convenience reasons or to selfishly benefit themselves for one reason or another.

**Piffle** · 12-07-2011 09:15

While I agree with the article in general I have to say I totally disagree with Facebook being put in the same category as violent shows/games and sexy clothes!

I have met a child who's allowed on facebook but only with her Mum being able to access her account also. She is friends with about 20 people, all of whom are family. It is really wonderful how she can interact with cousins she doesn't get to see much on there. How is that anything but a positive?

I always think that people who trash Facebook don't really understand what goes on there. It all comes down to the parent in the end.

**WorkingClassMum** · 12-07-2011 10:24

Originally Posted by EmyB

I always think that people who trash Facebook don't really understand what goes on there. It all comes down to the parent in the end.

I understand EXACTLY what goes on in FB - I get paid to use FB at work and it makes me all the more adamant that it is NOT for children

**Benji** · 12-07-2011 10:31

Sad, but true. Kids are forced to grow up before they're ready and in a society like ours, it shouldn't be happening.

I worry about my DS. If he happens to be friends with a little girl, which he has plenty, his father carries on about "ooooooooohhhh is that your girrrrrrrrrrrlfriend"... he's ALREADY setting him up to have unhealthy/uncomfortable friendships with girls and he's only 5 years old! He doesn't even understand what a girlfriend is!

Another issue is, monkey see monkey do. Kids mimic us... not to mention they are smart. I'll never forget turning the tv on the other day, the parental lock came on and DS announces "I'll fix it for you mum" and proceeded to put in the code that DP and I had put on

he'd worked it out himself