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    Default Long Term IVF Warrior Women

    Hi gorgeous gals

    I have been reading quite a few posts lately from courageous women who have been on the IVF treadmill for perhaps a little longer than most, and have been sharing thoughts that frequently echo mine; such as feeling left behind as we watch many lucky IVFers come and go (and then sometimes come and go a 2nd time!) and not posting as often in the threads because they feel their situation is different for having a more protracted journey.

    For anyone who has faced the pain of infertility we all bound by that common experience, but I just wanted to send special to anyone who feels they have somehow found themselves on the 'slow' track to achieving their dreams.

    Whether you are are still chasing that perfect embie and your cycle numbers are starting to more resemble your shoe size (my next one will be no. 8! ) or perhaps after many disappointments are looking down other avenues such as ED to start or complete your family I wondered if we could do with a space for ourselves??

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    Hi starfish,
    I'm up to cycle 4. It's a special kind of disappointment with repeated failed cycle as you're led to believe that ivf is a 'cure all'. Before ivf I always had at the back of my mind 'well if clomid doesn't work theres always ivf'. Nothing prepares you for 'if ivf doesn't work...'

    DH worries about the amount of time I'm on BH, but it's the only thing keeping me sane right now

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    I have been reading quite a few posts lately from courageous women who have been on the IVF treadmill for perhaps a little longer than most, and have been sharing thoughts that frequently echo mine; such as feeling left behind as we watch many lucky IVFers come and go (and then sometimes come and go a 2nd time!) and not posting as often in the threads because they feel their situation is different for having a more protracted journey.

    Hi Starfish,
    I'm so glad you started this thread because this is exactly how I have been feeling. I've just started DHEA and in late Sept/early Oct will be going for double figures in the attempt for our 1st child. (7th stim cycle -10th transfer) I also find it hard to still be posting in other threads because as you said I have seen ladies come and go and I'm still there trying for number 1. I'm happy for them that they have achieved their dream but it is a dagger in my heart that we are still trying and I do feel left behind. It's no fault to them at all but I dont think they truly understand what it is like for ladies like us who have been through so many transfers. I know everyone's journey is tough and we all go through the emotions, I dont deny that at all, but to hear some ladies complain about "having to go through yet another cycle" - at cycle number 2 really makes me bite my tongue.
    I would love to have other ladies to talk to who have also been through multiple cycles with no intention of giving up until they get their longed for bub. I look forward to getting to know you better and being a support to each other.

    Hi Vesper, I think we might have been on the May thread together - not that I posted there much . My DP also worries about me always being on BH cos even when I go through periods of not posting I still read every day. I think he realises though that even when what I read sometimes upsets me it is outweighed by the support I get, not to mention the things I find out that I then ask FS about. When are you starting your next cycle?
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    Hi Vesper & Lilybaby thanks for joining in!

    Vesper, I was so unbelievably confident on my 1st ever stim (14 eggs, 5 blasts) that not only was I going to get pregnant that cycle but perhaps my whole family would come from that stim!!! Both DH & I were gutted when none of those embies implanted & suddenly we were facing another EPU & then another one etc etc. So yes I definitely came into this with very unrealistic expectations & while it is not exactly a consolation what I have learnt about myself, the depths of my own strengths & quality of my relationship is something of a gift in itself, if that makes sense? Hope no. 4 is the magic number for you!

    Lilybaby, we have definitely crossed paths before having been around the traps for quite a while *hugs* I feel I have trialled pretty much everything; DHEA, saizen, TCM and a PGD cycle but I know like you I cannot give up my dream.

    My current FS thinks it is a chromosomal prob which occurs at conception as we have had quite a few BFP's but none go the distance (& karyotyping all normal for DH & I). Not sure what cycle 8 will look like yet but there will def be one!

    We are doing counselling with my sister next week for her to be a PED as one future option we are considering. I'm having a lot of trouble trusting my own eggs after so many MC's but also nagging at the corner of my mind is maybe the next one could be THE one! Arghh! But yep these are the kinds of issues I feel others might struggle to understand & I struggle to say when it feels like everyone is getting BFP's & end up with that babe in their arms.

    I hope DHEA is just the magic you need, it has been for so many girls here & we did get our 1st ever natural BFP while on it. How are you going with the side effects?
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    Bless you Starfish..... you have hit the nail ont he head and I never thought I would be one of them but here I am

    Ahhhhhhhhh the innocence that we all probaly had starting out on IVF, well to be honest I nearly fell over that I even had to do IVF as I naively thought we would try for 6 motnhs and there you go!

    Hello vesper and lilybaby.

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    Hi.
    The girls from my two "home" threads - Sydney Girls and May IVF are coming together. I hope the universe doesn't explode!

    Sometimes I think I'm an experienced IVFer, other times I think I'm very new to the game. Unlike most/all of you our TTC journey basically started at IVF. Issues with DH's quadriplegia means we haven't had the progressively increasing stress of 12 months TTC at home before consulting with fertility specialists. We weren't too pleased with the spinal cord injury fertility clinics and are glad we then decided to plunge straight into "regular IVF".

    Our first appointment was over 2 years ago, but there've been long waits while discovering DH's additional MFI and then doing donor stuff. I'm in the middle of my sixth stim cycle, but we've only done 4 transfers so far (6 embies total) - so it doesn't seem long term if you've only had a chance at getting pg 4 times.

    Starf1sh - We too were so hopeful on our first stim. The andrologist that our regular FS had referred DH to was certain he'd be able to find sperm, so we decided I would stim rather than put the painstakingly collected sperm through a freeze/thaw. Also surgical sperm collection was likely to cause DH to develop medical complications (particularly autonomic dysreflexia) that we wished to avoid as much as possible. That cycle (IVF#0) was a bit depressing.
    Then we were hopeful again on IVF/ICSI#1. No-one had told us there were any problems with the donor sperm. We had 7/7 fert and all were still going on d3. At d5 there were two blastocysts, but both were abnormal and not t'ferred. They are still the only two blasties we've ever made. On the next cycle we asked for digital high-mag and discovered most of the sperm had vacuoles - they could only find 7 good sperm in the sample and we'd collected 9 mature eggs.

    lilybaby - I also don't know what to say, so until now have said nothing, when someone writes how they hope their FET works because they don't know how they'll cope with having to do a second stim cycle. I'm getting to the point where I'd like to have a frosty and do a FET just to introduce some variety into my IVF experience.

    And, of course, hello vesper. Since I joined BH I seem to be chasing you all over the forums. When DH sees me on the computer he just asks, Are you on BH again?

    Hi, SpotTheOcelot. I don't think I've met you before now.

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    brilliant thread. After 5 years of ivf. 6 epu and 20 transfers. I would have loved a thread like this. Just my 2 cents worth. Baby dust to all.

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    Starfish- So when are you planning next cycle? I noticed in your tag that you're considering ED... DH has a chromosomal issue (balanced translocation) and at the back of my mind is always the thought of how long do we go on before we consider donor... I'm so impatient to be UTD but I don't want to rush into donor if it's just a matter of waiting it out for that perfect embie. This might not sound right, but reading of other longer term IVFers gives me inspiration that I'm not being silly pushing on with repeated IVF failures. Thanks for starting thread, as the others have said it's easy to feel a bit lost when there are so many ladies on the other threads who seem to get lucky first time... Love the thread name too, very positive...

    Felicita- Hello! Yes, I think we are stalking each other! I always appreciate your informative posts, if there's something I need researched, I know who to ask

    Lilybaby- Yes, we were on May thread together. Hoping our next cycles work out better We're just starting our next cycle. My first 3 were antagonist but I've swapped clinics and this time new FS has me doing a long down reg. I start jabbing on Friday and EPU should be around 26th... I'm half excited and half dreading going through another cycle because I'm finding it harder to deal with the disappointment. But I just keep telling myself that we either stop TTC or we keep going and there's no way I can stop!!

    Spot- Hello

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    Starfish -, I've also done the TCM & accupuncture (for 9 months) and tried colostrum powder for 5 months, used clexane and aspirin for a few cycles with no result too but that was all prior to being diagnosed with adenomyosis so was just throwing money away really. Last cycle I did saizen (6 shots) and that was my worst result ever (quality and quantity) - an extra $1200 for nothing! I'm still glad I did it though because I know I gave it a go. In April I did a Lipiodol flush which is meant to help increase implantation for the next 12 months so here's hoping that makes a difference. I've only been taking DHEA for 2 weeks so no real side affects yet - do you know how long they take to kick in? Although I've had killer headaches for over a week so maybe some have started already?? Wasn't sure if they were DHEA related or just end of term craziness. It will be great and hopefully beneficial for all of us to share what we have tried over our ivf journeys, hopefully our shared experiences can get us all over the line.
    Good luck with the counselling, I can understand your struggle in thinking about it. It's lovely of your sister to offer though. My FS hasn't suggested ED to us yet but I think that conversation isnt too far away. I completely understand your thinking though that what if the next emby is the one, such a hard decision to make.

    Spot - Hi , yes I had the total innocence/naiviety too. I honestly thought it would work 1st go and was shocked when it didnt. I never thought I'd still be doing ivf 2 years later but I truly believe that we'll get there in the end. Perserverance has to pay off!

    Felicita - Hi . Wow 2 years is a long time if you've only had the chance to do 4 transfers. You must be incredibly frustrated, I know I am whenever I have to wait a few months. When is your next cycle? Hopefully it is soon.

    Vesper - , congrats on starting another cycle. I understand your feelings of dread/excitement - my last cycle I was just "so over it!" Not that I dont desperately still want a bub but just so over the drugs and injecting. I've only ever done 1 antagonist, the others have always been long down or long, long down. When I switched clinics in December 2010 they discovered I had severe adenomyosis which is why my previous 7 transfers had zero chance of working and the only way to reduce it and give me a chance of embies implanting is to suppress for a minimun of 2+ months before starting FSH drugs. So I start supressing in about 1-2 weeks even though my cycle isnt until end of Sept.
    Wishing you loads of luck with this cycle and also good luck for your jabbing on friday.

    Well I'm relaxing on the couch with my furbaby even though DP is nagging cos he wants us to go out and do something. I'll prob get up in a sec to keep him happy cos I'm on school holidays () so I can relax for the next 2 weeks. Have a great Sunday ladies.

    P.S Congratulations Katiana, I'm so happy for you. It must feel surreal to be pregnant after trying for so long. Wishing you a healthy and carefree pregnancy.
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    Hi guys

    I hope you don't mind me butting into your thread but I thought my story might give you some hope. We started ivf at the stArt of 97. I was only 36 at the time and full of hope. To cut a long story short I ended up being a poor responder and we had fert issues also. After 10 full stim cycles I was close to giving up when we became preg with DD. I was 39. DD is now 14 months old and I am 13 weeks pregnant at 40...naturally. I think DHEA played a huge part for me.

    I reallythought I was going to be one of the ones left behind but was determined to keep going. Hang in there guys

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