Anyone feel like they fail at parenthood?

[Just*Ace]

My DD turns 1 tomorrow and I just feel like if there was a review for the year I would fail! I mean I have tried my absolute hardest but I got so much wrong! Like now at the age of 1 she will not take a cup/bottle/sippy cup/straw cup, what 1 year old can't do that? She can't handle lumpy food, she can hold and gnaw on junk food but it gets spat out not swallowed. She doesn't walk and I know that is normal and she does have hip dysplasia but gosh it feels like every baby from 9 months and up is running! And I failed her with the hip dysplasia as I listened to the paed who said it didn't need treating at 11 weeks and now she was to wear a brace for sleeping. And she still wakes for a feed at night, which I don't mind doing but supposedly after 6 months I shouldn't be doing this. She is also so tiny and I feel like that's my fault too. Anyone else feel like failures at all things parenting? She is seriously such a happy baby, but I feel sorry for her that I suck so much at parenting!

[Laksa]

Oh gosh, don't be so hard on yourself!

My kids both woke til after 2 (one for boob, one for cuddles) so don't believe that 6 month stuff!! Some babies sleep great from the start, others are still waking at 5yo and all the range in between.

You said she is a happy baby, so obviously you ARE doing a good job. Coz to me, thats the biggest sign

[MyLilMunchkinz]

My DD turns 1 tomorrow and I just feel like if there was a review for the year I would fail! I mean I have tried my absolute hardest but I got so much wrong! Like now at the age of 1 she will not take a cup/bottle/sippy cup/straw cup, what 1 year old can't do that? She can't handle lumpy food, she can hold and gnaw on junk food but it gets spat out not swallowed. She doesn't walk and I know that is normal and she does have hip dysplasia but gosh it feels like every baby from 9 months and up is running! And I failed her with the hip dysplasia as I listened to the paed who said it didn't need treating at 11 weeks and now she was to wear a brace for sleeping. And she still wakes for a feed at night, which I don't mind doing but supposedly after 6 months I shouldn't be doing this. She is also so tiny and I feel like that's my fault too. Anyone else feel like failures at all things parenting? She is seriously such a happy baby, but I feel sorry for her that I suck so much at parenting!

First of all your NOT a failure. Most mothers listen to what the dr's say so im not sure how you feel that when it comes to the hip condition its your fault at all.
Motherhood doesnt come with an instruction manual and if your trying your hardest than thats all the matters. But to answer your question, yes, well i know i have felt like it many times. I dont think there is a mother out there that could honestly say that at one point or another that they havent felt like they suck at parenting. hugs to u

[Pregnor]

Gosh you aren't a failure! Is bloody hard! My ds is 2.5 and Still wakes in the night,, still takes over an hour to get to sleep, and I still struggle to get him to eat anything!

But I love him (and bub) and I try my hardest every day, and try to do what's best, so I cant be doing that bad

You sound like you love her, and you are trying your best! There isn't much more you can do, except get up tomorrow and keep doing your best

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[Girl X]

My DD turns 1 tomorrow and I just feel like if there was a review for the year I would fail! I mean I have tried my absolute hardest but I got so much wrong! Like now at the age of 1 she will not take a cup/bottle/sippy cup/straw cup, what 1 year old can't do that? She can't handle lumpy food, she can hold and gnaw on junk food but it gets spat out not swallowed. She doesn't walk and I know that is normal and she does have hip dysplasia but gosh it feels like every baby from 9 months and up is running! And I failed her with the hip dysplasia as I listened to the paed who said it didn't need treating at 11 weeks and now she was to wear a brace for sleeping. And she still wakes for a feed at night, which I don't mind doing but supposedly after 6 months I shouldn't be doing this. She is also so tiny and I feel like that's my fault too. Anyone else feel like failures at all things parenting? She is seriously such a happy baby, but I feel sorry for her that I suck so much at parenting!

Congratulations! My DD turns 1 tomorrow too!
So... bearing in mind they are exactly the same age...

DD will not drink from a sippy cup or bottle unless I hold it for her. She tries, but hasn't worked out tilting it yet, so she just kind of sucks at the air. I have never given her a straw!

She eats lumpy food, but a lot still gets spat out.

She isn't walking properly yet. She walks between people/ objects, but most of the time prefers to crawl.

She sleeps through, but has always been unusual in that regard as she's done it from 4 weeks. Nothing to do with our parenting - we just got lucky on that one.

Size wise, they all come in different shapes and sizes, as I have learned from going to playgroup!

The main thing you have already said yourself. She is happy! How can you be a failure if you have a happy baby?!!

Please don't be so hard on yourself. My DD sounds so similar to yours in a lot of ways, and I've never thought of her as behind on anything. She's actually ahead of a lot of other babies I know! You love her and she's happy. Not a failure.

[krystallxx]

God u do not suck at parenting .. Its a huge learning experience for the rest of your life. My Boys are nearly 3 and can't sleep thru the night yet :| they had bottles overnight until they were 1 then I threw them out. Their teeth have moved from having a stupid dummy constantly for 16-18mths constantly. I even forgot to feed my 6wk old today and she went 6hrs instead of 4. Don't worry, we all make mistakes and that doesn't make u a failure or a crappy mum at all!

[meme]

Nope I'm a perfect parent

Honey, be gentle with yourself, parenting is an ongoing experiment for most of us and the best parents I think just keep learning and improving as they go along, so of course looking back on thing in your babies first year you may see things that you wished you had done differently but the good thing is you can just keep growing as a person and a parent

And also as a parent you are quite often damned if you do and damned if you don't, so when you hear that they *should* be doing something by a certain age, take it with a grain of salt when you need to. Read and talk to other parents and professionals, but also you are the expert on your own individual baby and what is normal for her.

It all sounds pretty normal stuff to me, they all walk at different times, and sleep through at different times.

Happy Birthday

[Sheer Bliss]

I feel like that HEAPS, but I know it's not true, except on those really bad days where nothing has gone right and I doubt myself again!!

My 4 have all slept through at different ages and at 4 and 6 my older 2 don't even sleep in their beds all night and end up in with me!

You HAVE survived the first year, and said THE single most important in your OP - she is HAPPY!! You have a happy baby that loves you and you love her, screw the rest!!!

[duckduckgoose]

I feel like it all the time. It's hard to deal with seeing as I was so sure I was going to BE a perfect parent when I was pregnant. Oh yes, reality is a shock sometimes.

But I tell myself that the fact that I am hard on myself probably means I am doing a decent job. I think being a bad parent means you don't give a rat's about what sort of job you're doing!

[mar]

I think we all feel like a failure as parents sometimes! But to me it doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong, or like your 1 year old DD is unusual in any of the things she is doing. Don't be too hard on yourself, you obviously love your DD and you say she is a happy baby so that's the main thing. Parenting is a huge learning experience, I'm sure there are not many of us who wouldn't change certain things we've done along the way. Nobody is perfect, and it sounds to me like you're doing fine