Last edited by Mrs E; 31-05-2012 at 16:18.
My MIL is great! She offers support and advice, is there when I need her and is definitely not overbearing. I have a great relationship with my PIL's. They call me often and visit even when DF is working and I really enjoy their company.
I also love how they have taken on my DD's (who aren't biologically DF's but he is their Dad as far as everyone is concerned) as their first grandchildren, spoiling them and help look after them if needed. My SIL is the same.
I really do love all my inlaws!
I really like my MIL, I think the thing is that she needs to respect you & your relationship with her son. And the way you parent your children. And she doesn't try to act like a mother to me - more of a friend.
MIL does offer advice but at the end of the day she won't impose it on us, and if I say it won't happen, she won't do it.
Admittedly I haven't always been amused about some of her ideas... like her wanting to be at the hospital when I was in labour. yeah noooo...luckily FIL stepped in there as well as DF in saying that we should have some space until we wanted visitors and although she was a little upset, she got over it.
She does want to hold DD all the time, but since they live several hours away & don't see her that often I usually let it go unless DD wants to be on the floor playing, and MIL will bring DD to me if she gets upset.
The only other thing is MIL buying what I think are ghastly outfits for DD lol...
But, I let it go, MIL adores DD - first grandchild & a girl (MIL had 3 boys & really wanted a girl) and I'm happy & lucky that she isn't a nutcase like so many & that I can get along with her fine
Opposite of what Marie (from Raymond) is.
One that is not overbearing interfering.
I like my MIL, she's got her peculiarities, but that's just her, and she doesn't impose that on us given that we live >200km away. When we visit those peculiarities provide us and the skids some entertainment. Good thing is she doesn't interfere nor intrude. The other two DIL's that she has who live within 25km of her don't get along with her, one doesn't even speak to her, and I can't grasp why. She seems like a nice old lady who's just very set in her ways, I suppose because we don't see her much, we just tolerate it when we do see her, but she's not an overbearing person at all. Maybe they think she's passive aggressive?
Not playing favorites with your children then grand children!!
That she doesn't live in the same country as us No no just kidding
My MIL is a just a really nice caring, accepting person. I really love that her and FIL consider DS1 (from a previous relationship) their grandson and will show off photos of him just like they do with DS2. Brings a tear to my eye actually.
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