When did I suddenly lose my social life?

**LovingMumof2** · 21-05-2011 22:13

It’s almost like I woke up one morning to find that I have no social life. When I think about it, it probably started 10 years ago when I left my home town that I had grown up in to move to Brisbane with my husband. I guess I have always kept myself busy having small children. But now that I have one at school 5 days a week and one at a C&K I have began to realise that I dedicated so much of myself to my husband and children over the last 8 years that I have now just found myself here.... Quite lonely, wanting to go out and embrace life but finding it hard to click with others. I’ve thought about studying but I don’t even know what I like anymore, so therefore I don’t know where to start?
Has anyone else found themselves here? Not knowing the person in the mirror anymore? A little lost?

**MrsMorrisseyBrisbane** · 22-05-2011 03:32

Yes, moved to Brisbane most of my old friends are scattered all over the place.

I am just pregnant with my first so hoping this will help me meet people.

I think moving isn't easy and I like you don't find it easy to make new friends/meet people.

**Bonneyjean** · 22-05-2011 04:55

Ditto to both posts - I've got one in a pre-prep program and a 7 mths old.

after making a really lovely group of friends in north Bris after DS was born, 3 yrs ago moved closer to family in south east Bris.
It's different I've found it easier now I've picked up work part-time not really making friends, as in management and can't be social friends with your team, though getting out has helped me not just clean within 4 Walls all day!!

Why not get contact details of parents from C&K and arrange a parents only dinner or mums movie?over time you may find some new friends I do find though that I'm more honest with reality post kids with all friends though not as close/social as so time poor.

Maybe we are just more particular with our friends to protect our family?

**LovingMumof2** · 22-05-2011 21:02

That’s very true what you said about wanting to protect the family. I think it is also the friends I grew up with back home knew me from the age of 4 and it just seems like effortless friendships. I know them inside out and they know me.
Don’t get me wrong I have friends here, I have lots of people I have coffee with but nobody I feel totally at ease with. To put it nicely it seems to be very keeping up with the Jones. I mean I wouldn’t invite them around if I had dishes not done yet or clothes piled up in the laundry. It all just seems very false and superficial (which it is) and it works both ways (they were like that when I met them). It’s like I’m living in a stepford wives community lol... e.g “My little Johnny is doing advance mathematics and can read at a year 8 level and his only in year 1” lol... What about your son how is he going? It just seems like everyone is all about saving face, which of us can have the most perfect family on the outside. I get it already... Don’t get me wrong I can hold my own and talk about the new house we bought, or our top of the line 4wd or my husband fantastic managerial job. But at the end of the day I’m not getting to know you and you’re not getting to know me. It just feels like a constant competition
I guess I just miss those real female friendships, the ones where it doesn’t matter if I haven’t waxed my legs, done my hair, have make up on or even gotten out of my pyjamas for the day because they seriously get it and there my friends because they know me.

**Rachelplus3** · 22-05-2011 21:56

I have been on the Gold Coast for over 5yrs & have NO friends. But saying that I make no effort to make any. I was in a controlling relationship for so long & feel like I have nothing to really offer.
Only friends I can b myself with are the ones that knew me before I met my ex.