I've decided to bombard your thread . I haven't read back yet so apologies for being ignorant in not knowing where you are up to but will read back to get to know you all. I'm about to start ivf all over again for child #2, turning 43 next month so noooot very confident as it took so long to get my DD in the 1st place. I have pondered over the last 12 months whether to go again and sometimes thought I had resigned to the fact I'm extremely lucky to have my DD and that should be it, however it can not leave my mind that I need to at least try for DD's sake so when she asks in the future why she doesn't have a little bro or sis that I can say (if it fails) that I tried but it didn't happen and not feel total regret for not trying. I am kicking myself I've taken a year to decide this but I couldn't go ahead with it if I wasn't ready to as I went thru a hell of alot of ivf previously and wasn't so sure I could face it again & some other reasons were surfacing as well.
I know alot of you are trying desperately for child #1, so I hope I'm not affending anyone or coming across as incensitive to any of you. I am fully aware of how difficult ivf can be & the hopelessness it can make you feel, and I haven't told any friends and family (except my mum) that I'm going ahead again because I know their reactions would be 'why are you bothering again? be grateful for what you have!'. I for one don't want to hear that because I know why I'm doing it, for my daughter. One day she will be all grown up and I will be gone and she will have no family and I don't want that for her. I know in my heart that it's the right thing to do to at least try. I can only give it the one go this time around however, since I had DD the cost is so much more, just the sperm alone has tripled, back then it only cost $1100 for 3 straws including shipping from Vic, now to get same donor (which is what I want) it's almost that for 1 straw, plus the rest of the ivf cost etc etc .
Anyway, just introducing myself now and will read back and catch you all later, we are off to DD's appointment at the family health clinic.