Hey everyone. Since there has been alot of thread on here lately asking about custody of newborns and young toddlers, I thought I would start a thread on the recommendations and some resources on custody. Below is recommendations from CSA. Source is http://www.csa.gov.au/__documents/publications/1229.pdf
0–12 Months — Development of trust
It is important for an infant to feel safe; to have
consistent routines and their needs met promptly.
• Contact away from the primary caregiver should be short but
• Contact needs to be adjusted to the child’s eating and sleeping cycles.
• Both parents should be aware of the infant’s usual routine.
1–3 hours two to three times a week.
12–24 Months — Developing language and
Emotional attachments to one or two caregivers start
to form and so a change in surroundings can be unsettling.
• Contact with both parents should be no longer than three days apart.
• To ease the initial anxiety at changeover ensure familiar possessions
are sent with the child — cuddly toys etc.
• The duration of contact with non-resident parents should increase
and progress to overnight stays over time.
One daytime period of up to 8 hours with up to two
non-consecutive overnights each week.
24–36 Months — Establishing bonds with
Initially a toddler may resist separation from the
primary caregiver and start to show their frustration
• Make changeovers as quick and painless as possible to minimise
• Present a united front – kids at this age will start to test the
boundaries and it’s easier on everyone if they are the same at both
Two non-consecutive nights per week with one weekend
3–5 Years — Developing social skills
Children start to imitate adult behaviours and develop a
basic understanding of language, time and relationships.
They do not, however, understand the concept of separation
• Foster good feelings about future time to be spent with the other
parent. ‘Tomorrow Mummy/Daddy is taking you to the park and
then you are staying at her/his house!’
• Keep con
fl ict away from your kids.
• Talk to them about their feelings regarding the separation
e.g. ‘Are you feeling sad?’
Two to three consecutive nights each week.
6–12 Years (Primary School) —
Self esteem, con
fi dence, security and peer pressure
Children begin to feel concerned about spending an equal
amount of time with each parent so it is important they
have individual time with each.
• Inviting friends over to play is an important part of growing up.
• Younger children still need frequent contact.
• As a child matures, longer periods with fewer changeovers may
Alternate weekends with two consecutive overnight stays
in the off week.
13–17 Years (Adolescents) —
Adolescents begin the process of separating from their parents, resist
rigid contact arrangements and start to make independent decisions.
• Friends and social activities become
fi rst priorities.
• Flexibility is the key!
• Don’t be disappointed if your kids don't want to spend time with
either parent at this age. This might not be about the divorce but
more about the lifestyles of teenagers!
Every alternate weekend with some fl exible contact
There are many ways to share parenting. Don’t be limited by the
examples above. As a parent you know what is best for your child.