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    Hey everyone. Since there has been alot of thread on here lately asking about custody of newborns and young toddlers, I thought I would start a thread on the recommendations and some resources on custody. Below is recommendations from CSA. Source is http://www.csa.gov.au/__documents/publications/1229.pdf

    0–12 Months — Development of trust
    It is important for an infant to feel safe; to have
    consistent routines and their needs met promptly.
    TIPS:
    • Contact away from the primary caregiver should be short but
    frequent.
    • Contact needs to be adjusted to the child’s eating and sleeping cycles.
    • Both parents should be aware of the infant’s usual routine.
    EXAMPLE:
    1–3 hours two to three times a week.

    12–24 Months — Developing language and
    memory skills
    Emotional attachments to one or two caregivers start
    to form and so a change in surroundings can be unsettling.
    TIPS:
    • Contact with both parents should be no longer than three days apart.
    • To ease the initial anxiety at changeover ensure familiar possessions
    are sent with the child — cuddly toys etc.
    • The duration of contact with non-resident parents should increase
    and progress to overnight stays over time.
    EXAMPLE:
    One daytime period of up to 8 hours with up to two
    non-consecutive overnights each week.

    24–36 Months — Establishing bonds with
    many caregivers

    Initially a toddler may resist separation from the
    primary caregiver and start to show their frustration
    with tantrums.
    TIPS:
    • Make changeovers as quick and painless as possible to minimise
    separation anxiety.
    • Present a united front – kids at this age will start to test the
    boundaries and it’s easier on everyone if they are the same at both
    houses.
    EXAMPLE:
    Two non-consecutive nights per week with one weekend
    per month.

    3–5 Years — Developing social skills
    Children start to imitate adult behaviours and develop a
    basic understanding of language, time and relationships.
    They do not, however, understand the concept of separation
    or divorce.
    TIPS:
    • Foster good feelings about future time to be spent with the other
    parent. ‘Tomorrow Mummy/Daddy is taking you to the park and
    then you are staying at her/his house!’
    • Keep con
    fl ict away from your kids.
    • Talk to them about their feelings regarding the separation
    e.g. ‘Are you feeling sad?’

    EXAMPLE:
    Two to three consecutive nights each week.

    6–12 Years (Primary School) —
    Developing relationships
    Self esteem, con
    fi dence, security and peer pressure
    become issues.
    Children begin to feel concerned about spending an equal
    amount of time with each parent so it is important they
    have individual time with each.

    TIPS:
    • Inviting friends over to play is an important part of growing up.
    • Younger children still need frequent contact.
    • As a child matures, longer periods with fewer changeovers may
    be preferable.
    EXAMPLE:
    Alternate weekends with two consecutive overnight stays
    in the off week.

    13–17 Years (Adolescents) —
    Increasing independence
    Adolescents begin the process of separating from their parents, resist
    rigid contact arrangements and start to make independent decisions.
    TIPS:
    • Friends and social activities become
    fi rst priorities.
    • Flexibility is the key!
    • Don’t be disappointed if your kids don't want to spend time with
    either parent at this age. This might not be about the divorce but
    more about the lifestyles of teenagers!

    EXAMPLE:
    Every alternate weekend with some fl exible contact
    in between.
    There are many ways to share parenting. Don’t be limited by the

    examples above. As a parent you know what is best for your child.

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    Shared babies at risk of anxiety
    http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life...707-100px.html

    Of course all of these things depend on level of conflict and relationship before separation. And also on the location of both the parents.

    Answers quite a few questions about the seperation process and parenting plans.
    http://www.armstronglegal.com.au/web/page/child_custody
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    An American site but is a wealth of info about different studies and myths about shared parenting
    http://www.thelizlibrary.org/site-in...y-studies.html

    Information about Parenting plans
    http://www.familyrelationships.gov.a...erMay2008.aspx

    http://www.legalaid.wa.gov.au/Inform...tingPlans.aspx
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    Starting again after Break-up
    These are some links for getting household goods after breakup. The payments come straight out of C/L thru Centrepay.

    NILs Loan (No Interest) Up to $1000 for one item for household item
    http://www.nab.com.au/wps/wcm/connec...out_us/7/4/3/3

    StepUP Loans. Up to $3000 with low interest rate
    http://www.nab.com.au/wps/wcm/connec...out_us/7/4/3/4

    AddsUp Saving Plans. NAB will match savings up to $500. Read link for more details.
    http://www.nab.com.au/wps/wcm/connec...out_us/7/4/3/7

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    Great info. Thankyou


 

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